cancer male-i've been taken by suprise!

[shea]

i have liked this cancer male for a pretty long time now-and have been through alot of confusion.....

BUT, i am no longer confused because he is now coming on really strong.

very few people suprise me but over the past year i've felt like ive been given mixed signals and kind of a cold shoulder from him at times and NOW all of the sudden he is texting/calling, wanting me to come over to his house,and inviting me other places. he's on vacation with his family and hasnt gone one day without contacting me.

right BEFORE this all started happening we had a conversation about everything that has been going on between us and i told him that i was very attracted to him and wanted to see him more. well now he is acting very different (good different!) and im just wondering if its because NOW he trusts me?

does this mean that he is finally letting me in and coming out of his shell?

[Angeline Elise]

Yes. Wow!!

How exciting!! ;P

[shea]

i know! im very excited =) thanks girls

[shea]

well what do you know....

my cancer has "dissappeared" now and is not answering my texts/messages... what in the hell....i am so pissed

he was so attentive i didnt think he was going to back off THIS much.......and i dont understand why

[Onewordspoken]

How long has it been since he contacted you?

[Onewordspoken]

Rawr!

I totally get what you're saying. You are obviously upset. And it's understandable the emotion you're having. I'd suggest you let him know what you feel when more calm. Perhaps he has a really good reason.

I know that 90% of all statistics are made up on the spot......however:

There was a study done about worrying. Apparently worrying was only 9% right 2% of the time. Or something ridiculously low. My suggestion is to take a breath....sit down...write out a whole email putting all the cusswords you can think of in it, and really telling him off for not calling you. Then?

Delete it. DO NOT SEND THE EMAIL. But it might be good to get out how you feel. Then perhaps give it some time to see if he calls, and/or you change what you are feeling.

[Angeline Elise]

I agree with OneWord Shea...we need to breathe....take a step back and not let this man get the better of us in any way. If you want to let him go...just don't call him, wait for him to call you and THEN make him answer this bull!!

"your being very un-dude"- Walter, 'The Big Lebowski'

[shea]

too late, i sent him an internet message.....just because if i would have called and left a message he could hear how upset i was...so i sent him a message saying how messed up i think he is, and if he wanted to play games like a little kid, i will TREAT HIM LIKE A LITTLE KID! and i told him that i guess i was wrong about him, and that i think he's a....(choice word). but i dont care, i speak my mind and im glad i did it. he can do what he wants now.

[audrey-jayne]

hi shea

this is so strange, but the day you first put your post here i had a very similar scenario with a cancer guy: liked him for ages, obvious he liked me and we finally seemed to be getting somewhere that same day- he sent me the most amazing sms messges and i thought wow..he is ready for something to progress, he came on so so strong.

then over the last weekend, he seemed to express how insecure he feels and it was obvious he needs lots of reassurance about how i feel towards him, so i gave a lot of encouragement.

then today i suggested meeting up this weekend and....he can't because he has friends here from out of town and his messages seemed cold! no mention of suggesting another time to meet up or anything, it feels like he has no wish to see me or even likes me anymore :-(

i'm so confused and when i read your recent post, felt like telling you that i feel the same as you. our situations are different, i know, but similar at the same time.

i agree with OneWord too. hang in there hon, dont let this make you too upset.

[shea]

thank you for your post, though your cancer is at least a little respondent to you, as where mine just ignored most of my messages. its not fair and its not right. i sent him a message telling him what i thought and then he sent me one back TOTALLY acting like he didnt care and was like sorry dont think were gonna workout but i guess ill be friendly towards you when i see you. bye.

ARE YOU SERIOUS? i cant believe he did that. i dated another cancer male in high school who played that game with me too so i should have been more skeptical, but how could he be so caring and sweet and then all the sudden not care about me?

i told him i deserve an answer as to why he switched like that and he never responded. i just dont understand and i think thats so childish.

[audrey-jayne]

hi shea
well here is my update. seemed like we were finally getting somewhere since my last post here and he was being so so cute and then when i objected to things moving so fast in a sexual way, he became childish, accusing me of over reacting and then said we should forget things and just go back to how things were before.

i have no idea how to rectify this, as i actually think we both misunderstood eachother- maybe he thinks i was rejecting him, but he wont listen to me and is acting like he doesn't care. i'm so confused, especially as we are supposed to be friends and i keep wanting to say to him that if he really doesn't care, then why would he over react like that?

i guess i'll leave it till he comes to his senses? i hear the worst thing to do with cancer men is chase them out of their shell when they are angry.

what is your update?

[audrey-jayne]

he has come around, slo-o-o-w-w-l-y. guess i have to see how long for!