Scorpio girl exposes herself. On accident?

[demonangel]

so i was talking to this girl that i like on AIM the other night. we had been talking all day pretty much about a lot of stuff. so then it got to night time and she said she was going to stay in cause it was rainy outside. she said she was going to drink some beer and wine that her old roommate had left. i had to stay in and do schoolwork anyway and i was having fun talking to her. so no big deal to me.
i asked her if she was drunk a few times through the night. she was like oh no i only have three beers or something like that. long story short she was a little more drunk than i thought and the conversation got pretty sexy for a while.

this afternoon she dosent know anything about it. shes like what did i do last night? saying that she passed out and sent some other person a myspace message and pissed her other friend off on aim. i asked her a few questions and i could tell she really didnt rember what we had talked about. at least she rembered the part where i said "well ur as pretty as any girl around here but your pretty on the inside too."

then she was asking me what i said. so i told her what i said to her and then i told her what she said. she immediately does her little shell thing and goes cold. shuts me out and leaves. she was like im sorry! then she said she had to go shower and never came back.

i actually did get a little worried because she was acting funny before i went to bed. she gave me the impression that she wasnt even drunk. i told her i dont like talking on aim but she insists on it. because i was kind of egging her on to drink but she told me she only had 3 beers and a bottle of wine and she was acting like she was tough shit when it comes to drinking. its always the same. she gets insecure and puts up an impenetrable shield. she turns kind of mean when she feels insecure too.

shes obviously much more embarrassed than me. because i will say whatever. its just that she was more receptive so it went down that path. we just recently started having these long conversations. so i mean what am i supposed to make of this?
is this good or bad? i mean either way its kind of worrisome that she gets drunk and passes out alone with her computer and does stuff she dosent rember. poor baby. i thought maybe a little wine would help her with her shyness. i was right. now shes all embarrassed cause she dosent want me to know that she is checking me out.

[Angeline Elise]

shes obviously much more embarrassed than me. because i will say whatever. its just that she was more receptive so it went down that path. we just recently started having these long conversations. so i mean what am i supposed to make of this?

Oh my, this girl seems so shy....why is she so scared?? That's what we need to find out...could it be outside influences? It seems she really likes you and doesn't want it to be known. I don't know...have you tried being point blank honest with her you want to be with her and are interested in a relationship? Maybe she's scared your gaming, or don't want a relationship.

Dunno, Scorps are strange birds!!

;( On The Drinking Too.

[demonangel]

shes very untrusting. she thinks the worst of everyone. obviously shes been hurt.

[Angeline Elise]

do you think you are patient enough to deal with this?

ps-this is where your chart would help...at least a lil!! ;)

[demonangel]

NO I AM NOT

[demonangel]

i didnt know she was a three beer queer

[Angeline Elise]

Thats a very negative way to speak about someone who you are interested in. :(

An even worse reality would be that she remembers everything and feels too embarrassed to speak of it...in that case she would actually not be a "three beer queer"

In my eyes the entire scene is unfortunate....imo.... I hate drinking as a lubricant...I want any man I'm with to be sober as well as myself, so nothing gets misunderstood...I am a very direct woman! (well there was one case when I was younger I wasn't direct, but I was with a very direct man, who set me straight on how very sober I was when I did..um, what I did..that relationship lasted about a year after that)

Be direct!!

[demonangel]

she was the one who wanted to get drunk.

[demonangel]

did that direct man spank you?

[Angeline Elise]

Wouldn't you like to know Castor?!?!

Or am I speaking to Pollux? Mmmm?

He he he.

:)

[Angeline Elise]

demonangel... did you know that my wife May is a smart, powerful, artistic, beautiful woman not afraid to wear a mustache to please her woman? It's true.

Even if she charged as much as $100 per mustache ride...I'd surely go broke in a day!!

She has an Aries chart sig which can make her quite blunt, but you did note that your were "egging her on" and "thought maybe a little wine would help her with her shyness" and that can be construed as manipulative behavior.

[greenseavirgo]

oh may, you crack me up.

[Karen]

Demon, you could'nt have known how sh would repsond.You really could't have.Though next time, if there is one, *don't* egg her on.But really--do you see her in real life?or just IM/AIM/internet etc?
It sounds to me, she either is truly alcoholic, and doesn't know it yet, so all bets are off, or,she became very embaarassed anyway, whether she usally drinks or not, even ashamed.
As Angeline said she probably feels scared, and did and said too much for her comfrtability level.
So--I suggest writing or calling whatever you usually do and even if she doesn't answer--tell her you like her, and that you're sad (or sorry or whatever), that she doesn't seem to want to talk now.
Tell her you and she won't have to mention that night again, but please come back.
(This is if you really want her to, now, not if you're just curious or horny).
OK.She probably feels like an ass.If you do rather like her, it's not a lifelong committment to be real with her.Show her you don't think she's a jerk.
One thing, I would be concerned with though, is that if she is an alcoholic, it's not somehtng she can just stop by wising up, and it's a seriously troublesome problem.
Just a word to the wise.
Good luck.:-)