SHOULD I STAY IN LOVE WITH THIS AQUARIUS MAN....

[~Sweet~]

I don't even know if I will get a response to this but I am a sun taurus woman and just got out of a unexpectedly "short" relationship with a sun aquarius man. My story is somewhat long but to make it short...the aqua knew I wasn't interested in him at first because of the cold shoulder I gave him repeatedly (mostly because of past relationship issues). I didn't want anything to do with him especially since he planned on moving out of state. I offered to be a friend to him because long distance usually don't work...but oh no...he was sooo convinced he'd prove me wrong and assured me he would do all he could to make it work...somehow with his constant pursuing, reassurance with actions that matched his words, and intelligence...I opened up and let him in and my guard dropped. He was soooo infatuated so in love and even said he loved me. Told all his friends he found the one...his family...took me over to meet his parents...the whole nine. He would call so many times throughout the day or beg to see me...and when we did see each other it was 1st class all the way. He is by far the most amazing man I have ever met. Keep in mind...he was all of that when he was home. As soon as he left town not even a full two weeks later...all of that came to a screeching hault after he accused me of having horrible communication with him (mind you he is the one who became distant in communication while he was already HUNDREDS of miles away). Why go through all of that effort to break my guard down and tell the world you love me just to become a coldhearted distant short with words baffoon. He promised he wouldn't hurt me knowing what I've been through. I don't get it! He could of became an ass back home! He had the nerve to say to me "I wish things were different between us, I do love you and I'll c u around, maybe it might be different", and I may get a phone call or text from him every let's say 2-3 days. What am I suppose to do with that? He is VERY STUBBORN, is ALWAYS right even when he KNOWS for a fact he's wrong. The taurus I am, I can be just as stubborn so talkin to him and he talkin to me was like 2 bricks facing each other. I'm willing to compromise but mr aqua wouldn't compromise if it saved his life. If I mention anything emotional even now, NO RESPONSE..DEAD SILENCE..NADA! Was it all MIND GAMES? I'm so confused and would appreciate some input. He was so perfect and attentive to my needs and it all changed the moment he left and no doubt probably ran into temptation. What we had was what I and everyone who knew us thought was the perfect relationship. We were super compatible...I mean extremely compatible. How can he just walk away from that and appear to not be lookin back? 2 bad for me I now have to try to get over this otherwise perfect gentleman that entered n2 my life and I will but is he worth sticking around for... help please

[Donna]

Angeline Elise,

I love the cartoon, you just made me smile. Thank You!

[Angeline Elise]

Glad to help! ;P

[Onewordspoken]

Im at work.....you're lucky there were only a few mistakes.


Considering this entire website is a pink as you can possibly make it, I can't sluff it off as work related.

[Melanie]

Hey thank you for your insight.....I am impressed!!!

To tell you the truth I have grown accustomed to this 'relationship' being just a friendship and really and truly I have no problem with it....I have always told him I have no expectations from him....I do not even mind he dates other chicks as long as I can date the hunks :)

What bewilders me is his capacity to detach completely and to refrain from talking to me for weeks sometimes even months and then come back as if nothing ever happened.....I mean does he do that intentionally and does he do it with all of his other chicks?!?!! I'm sure he has a lot in line....he is very handsome you know, not to mention his sex appeal.....

When he does disappear I go into introspective mode and analyse each and every conversation we've had so as to make sure it was not me who upset him......I verbally abuse him (so to say) on a regular basis especially when he tries to put me down with his obnoxious, sarcastic remarks but I don't ever feel offended....it actually gets me on a high having to outwit his irony and all....on the other hand I feel he takes offence everytime I hit back and respond with the same sarcasm.....and somehow I think he may feel threatened by me so he retreats into silence leaving me perplexed and dumbfounded........for ages on end :(

I must admit I do like him a lot, and can't imagine him not being in my life. We both are great fun and together we create good energy and maybe that's what keeps him away.....it's too good and too intense for him to handle especially in this particular time of his life when he's convinced he doesn't want anything binding.

I am still waiting for his absolution by the way.....it's been three weeks now since we last spoke.....I hope I did not overdo it this time with my usual mouthiness....he could have sought consolation in the arms of a less outspoken lover :(

Anyhow, thank you so much for sharing, for the wishing-well and the positive comments.....unlike aqua men, I do appreciate compliments :)

[Melanie]

I think he has already decided I am not his piece of cake.....4 weeks of silence are a clear sign of rejection....

Need to do some crying :(

[Onewordspoken]

DON'T DO IT!!!

[Melanie]

what have I done to deserve this ??

I'll send an SOS to the world......and I hope that someone gets my..... message in a bottle.....

I'm sending out an SOS........help PLEASE!!!

[Donna]

Melanie,

Have a good cry, get it out your system, heal and then find a good man who deserves your time. You don't need a man who one day decides not to call you. That's inmature and cowardly. My Aquarius waited seven weeks one time to call me. That was at the beginning of our relationship. It hurt me so damn bad when I didn't hear from him. I have been with mine for four years on and off. If you hear him tell it thou, it's never off. I am still held accountable for all my actions. Now I cant shake this guy. If it's meant to be he will be back. Call him, if he dosen't pick up that's ok. Dont stress. Consider it a duty call. When he sees your number thoughts of you will be in his head. Remember when he does answer or call you, don't rag to much. Aquarius men need their space and do not like their independence threatened. Wait it out, but in the mean time enjoy your life.

[Melanie]

I did have a good cry but he is not out of my system yet! I am still waiting on him like an idiot.....and he will not call or email....it will have to be me again! What a bloody waste of time this man is.....I pity myself for being at his mercy :(

I wish we could be friends and get rid of all the complications we both have created.....our relationship has turned sour and even if he does return I will not even be able to look him in the eyes, let alone getting intimate with him....

I think we should just call it GAME OVER!

[~Sweet~]

Melanie,

I don't know what to say about your Aqua other than somehow they never forget and often come back. I guess this is where my aqua differs from the norm because he has constantly made it a point to stay in contact with me. The longest he has not communicated with me was like 5days if that. He refuses to exit my life and has said this to me MANY times. He is totally content with being a friend to me if. Of course, this was after he realized I was done with his weird nonsense in the relationship. The minute I realized "I" am what's important, "I" must protect and endear my own heart, "I" have to do me, he came around.

[Melanie]

Believe me Sweet I am clueless as to what to do....I must have said or done something really irritating if he is not coming back to me....or else he sought greener pastures and found them! Usually, he plays hard to get with women so the fact that he stuck by me no matter the distance (as we live in different countries) and all the other problems we've encountered, is a clear sign that he liked me but the switch may have gone OFF in his head this time and frankly don't know how to put it back ON!!!

Maybe he is seeing our relationship as futile....who knows?? He has a tendency of changing his mind and that scares me. I wish I could write him a letter but he could perceive that as 'pathetic' or 'needlessly romantic' not to say 'tragic' and might run away even faster so I prefer to give him all the space that he needs and let him be.....he knows that I care for him sincerely so if he doesn't return, it means that he has valid reasons which I ultimately have to respect!

I must admit it is a very sad situation for me.....he has really managed to unleash hell within my heart this time!!!

[Donna]

Onewordspoken:

Aquarius men are so amazingly intelligent it's sexy. But when it comes to romanic involvements, the Aquarius is clueless. Should this Gemini write an intruction manual for my Aquarius or would he still not get it? And how much damn rope are we talking about?