open relationship between aries man/scorpio lady

[jasmin]

not such a good idea really...
we were seeing eachother for a bit, having great sex and all the rest, but he didn't want a relationship, but i really liked him so i guess i took what i could get because i enjoy his company and think he's a great guy. actually i was sort of head over heels for him.
and then after about a month he told me it wasn't working for him and he hoped we could still be friends.
i was extremely upset by it, for a few days, but then suprised myself by how quickly i got over it.
from the day he broke it off he kept in contact with me and sent me txt messages every single day for 2 weeks until we saw eachother again,
and then we went out for dinner this week, and he tells me, we're just not meant for eachother, but he's really grown to like me, and he could see me as his girlfriend but it 'just can't happen' or something like that....
and then later in the night we were talking about the whole situation, more like arguing, and i told him i was over it, and him, i still have feelings for him, but i just don't feel the same as i did for some reason, i can't really explain it.
i still want him a lot, but it's really hard to explain...
and then he says he wants to go out with me, wants me to be his girlfriend, but wants it to be an open relationship...
he was almost begging me,
it was like the tables had completely turned,
obviously i accepted but i just don't know exactly what he wants from me.
if he wants me why can't he have all of me? and just me?
and it's not that he just wants me for sex, because he was suggesting that that was all that i wanted from him!!
which is completely untrue.
he is a typical aries male and i am a typical scorpio female.
notoriously one of the worst astrological matches, but, anyone have any thoughts on my situation?

[jasmin]

thank you.
that all sounds well and true and good.
and nothing that i really didn't know in the back of my head already.
but one thing,
he does know that i don't want him seeing other girls.
that was probably what annoyed him about me the first time round,
we weren't properly 'dating' even though he knew that was what i wanted, but i was always whinging about what he was getting up to because i knew there must have been something if he didn't want to be exclusive with me.
i know in the long term that things will never work out between us, we both know that.
but for now i sort of want to make it work. cause he really is an amazing guy.
he even asked me, why i didn't txt him as much after he broke it off with me, is he stupid? and then he tells me as we're walking around getting ice cream that i need to be more affectionate with him, 'don't you want people to know i'm yours?'
well... i don't feel like i'm yours, so i don't feel like you want me to act like im yours!!!!
gahhhhhhh
obviously there's something about me he wants. and i know i want him.
but it's still so hard.
i guess i'll just give him the extra affection and attention that he wants and see how that goes.
it's not that i don't want to be affectionate with him, ALL the time, but i truly just felt that he didn't reeally want me to be that way.
oh well.
i could type for hours and still not make any more sense.
grrrr

[Onewordspoken]

If you met an aquarius that bent to your will and whim, you met an aquarius that had A LOT of other influences in his chart.....and I do mean alot.

Jasmin:

I'm no aries master guru guy, but this guy sounds kind of typical. Sounds to me like the only part of the relationship he is interested in is the sex. How do you "see someone as a partner" but then say "we just can't". Like your love was forbidden or something retarded.

My personal experience with scorpio girls, is that to even look at another women meant an arse kicking for her and even worse for me. (Hell i'd even warn girls who came onto me that they were ensured bodily harm if my old lady caught them flirting with me) Don't know how scorps would do that open relationship if they had their heart fixated on the other person.

[ScorpioNights]

Aries wants the one he can't have, and it drives him mad. ;)

[jasmin]

i know. and he's all about 'playing the game'
'if i give you too much attention you won't want me as much' ... etc
well i'm sick of the game :|
we're both the type to crazily want eachother when we don't have eachother, but then when we have it, it fades away.
i think one of the main problems between us is the whole power struggle, the control thing.
he likes to be in control, and while him being in control too, he gets defensive way too quick at the slightest bit of control that i might have over him. it's frustrating as f*ck

[ScorpioNights]

My brother (also a Scorp) dated an Aries girl for 3 years and she pushed him for open relationships the whole time until he totally lost interest in her.

[Crystal]

He already has her, he just don't want her...remember he was the one who stated he didn't want a relationship.

[demonangel]

o god. scorpio cant do an open relationship can they?

[ScorpioNights]

Not if we actually like you.

[Angeline Elise]

Exactly what I was thinking!

[jasmin]

naturally no, scorpio's can't do an open relationship if it's something real.
but he's moving to america soon anyway,
so it's not going to be a long-term thing anyway,
that's why i'm not as worried about the whole open thing as i would normally with a guy i really like.
by open he doesn't mean dating other girls, or having sex with other girls, just playing around i guess.
but while i have him i just want to make it more real. i dunno.
i know i sound like the biggest idiot but there's so much to it

[Crystal]

Jasmin,

"but one thing, he does know that i don't want him seeing other girls. that was probably what annoyed him about me the first time round, we weren't properly 'dating' even though he knew that was what i wanted, but i was always whinging about what he was getting up to because i knew there must have been something if he didn't want to be exclusive with me."

You are right, that is why he stated to you that it wasn't working for him. But let's be honest here, you knew exactly what he wanted/didn't want just as well as he knew want you wanted/didn't want, so why go any further...when it was obvious that both of you were looking for two different things. If both of you know it will never work out long term (for whatever reasons) why the need to continue? He has made it clear to you he doesn't want a committed relationship, he wants to date and sex other women, otherwise, he would have never offered an "open" relationship...and you don't know what he wants from you?? Sweety, does FWB ring a bell. That is all he wants WITHOUT the constant "nagging"....but all he needs is your consent....which is why he proposed the idea to you. Sorry, but just telling it the way I see it.

[Sarah]

What's your definition of an open relationship?