The Scorpio Drama Continues...

[dirtyblonde00]

For those of you who have been following my story, I have more to add. My ex and I broke up in December 07 and have remained friends and cordial but only through email, text etc. A few weeks ago we spoke on the phone and he basically said he was scared to see me in person because he wasn't sure about the feelings etc. that would erupt. So, with this, I started ignoring his future attempts...didn't respond to texts, emails, offline messages etc. With about 4-5 of these, I get an offline message that says I need to talk to you. He basically says he would like to try dating again and the breakup was mostly his fault and his own fears etc...This was 4 days ago and I haven't heard ANYTHING since...what gives? I just really don't know what to do, I finally got the courage to walk away and now this? Help please!

[dirtyblonde00]

Hey Cappy remember how J and I's swoops on that chart didn't even meet LOL!! (I'm still laughing over that!)

[CappyCat]

Yeah....I think I'm still hung up on Sept. That's my mental expiration date. Because even by some MIRACLE we hook up afterwards, it's got a least likely chance of workingout. If you guys don't know what DB and I are talking about, it's the collision chart you can make on www.positiveastrology.com That site belongs to Professional Astrologer, Paul Westran who is shhh on this board :) Also author of

Click on the photo to be taken straight to his site. It's worth looking into.

[Samantha]

Well, I can understand because I was there but I haven't allow this to affect me for six years, that's just how long I have known him and he has been in my life. But yes I agree with that to a certain extent. I think that here they just know that they have to walk away and don't quite want to accept that yet. Us more fixed signs have a hard time accepting things and letting them go (even when thats whats best for us) lol. However, the Scorpio does see it as their security blanket (I like that term better than doormat). They run back to that person for comfort when things go wrong and you just have to let them go and learn on there own they can't treat some one like that and expect them to still hang around!

[dirtyblonde00]

Sam, you think the Scorps are having a hard time letting go of us even though they have to and need to?

[CappyCat]

YUP! My new Scorp friend told me last night, it's the loss of control and ego boosting. Cuz we're the only ones that are dependable and reliable enough to make them feel good about themselves.

DB...you're being a Virgo again. Stop asking the same questions over and over again in a different form to see if you'll get a diff answer cuz it will be the same answer. Like Sam said, we're their security blanket. :D

[aquamarine]

well said Crystal!

[Matt_G]

Hey, I kinda have to disagree with people here. I'm a Scorpio and there's sometimes I need time to think about something even if I want to do it. With my ex, I asked her to talk to me and she was like "When?" and I didn't know, I needed to think about what I wanted to say to her so I just sort of didn't say anything. Now she won't talk to me.

Anyway, sometimes I think I just want time to get everything just perfect, and that takes time. Like a lawyer preparing arguments, idk (sorry if that anolgy is lame, my mom's a lawyer) we don't want to say anything stupid or wrong. If he said he wanted to get back together he probably just is taking some time to get what he wants to say down pat. Sorry again, I could be dead wrong, but I guess I felt like I had to stick up for another scorpio guy. I wouldn't call him a jerk yet.

[Crystal]

"I'm a Scorpio and there's sometimes I need time to think about something even if I want to do it. With my ex, I asked her to talk to me and she was like "When?" and I didn't know, I needed to think about what I wanted to say to her so I just sort of didn't say anything. Now she won't talk to me."

I'm sorry, but it doesn't take 6 months to "think" about something like that, if it does, then I see no point in bringing it up until my mind is clearly made up. I understand the point of uncertainity because we all have this at points in our lives, but why initiate it? Just as what you did, which is pretty stupid to me, why ask your ex to talk to you when you know you are not sure when.

[Matt_G]

Idk, initiate to see if they're receptive or whatever? I really can't explain it, because to me, it's not really so bad, sorry. He might've thought she didn't want to get back together so he asks her, and when she says yes he thinks of how he wants the conversation to go, I guess.

[Crystal]

I disagree, he definitely knew she wanted to get back together as he knew she was the one who really didn't want to end the relationship the first time. This lady has written about 4 different threads that I know of about this same situation. This guy is clearly playing mind games with this woman. One thing I know is that scorpios are extremely smart, they are not called the most manipulative sign for nothing, lol. He knows exactly what is doing, there is no way he would continue playing this game if he REALLY wanted this woman...and this goes for ANY man. He would not constantly make plans or contact and continue to disappear. This is just an ego stroke for him.

Maybe it's not that bad to you because you are not on the receiving end. Question: How did it make you feel when your ex started ignoring your calls? Didn't feel too good, I bet. I always go by this thumb of rule: I always try to put myself in other people shoes. If I know it will hurt me in the process, I will not do it.

[Matt_G]

Hey, Crystal,

This is the first thread I'm reading so I didn't know it was really an ongoing thing. Yea, it sucked when my gf started ignoring me, but if you read my thread I said that she told her friend that she wanted me to see how it felt. But she never told me it bothered her. If the girl who started this thread told the guy that what he does bothers her and he still does it, then yea, he's crap and she shouldn't deal with it. But we're not mindreaders. My ex never told me "Hey when you do this, it makes me feel like crap" about stuff that obv. bothered her. If she had, I would've made changes but I can't do something if I don't know what the problem is.

[Ashley]

Matt, your situation and DBs arent really comparible..you guys had general communication/incompatibility issues...this guy is just playing head games with DB...and has been for months. He makes sure she is still smitten with him, then disappears, then she lets go, then he comes back to make sure she is smitten again and disappears again (repeat, repeat, repeat...)