Scorpio w/ an Aquarius girlfriend (uh oh)

[ixmatus]

If any of you reading this knows your stuff, you know this match is what drove me to sign up and post on these forums.

We have been together 9 maybe 10 weeks now, and in all my glory, moved it forward pretty fast... She just got out of a rough (7?) year relationship in January - so there is obviously some residual baggage.

I have a knack for women that challenge me, emotionally, it seems.

The crappy part is - we mesh together better than Oil & Vinegar (as in a tasty dressing) when she is front and center ('floating' as she puts it, the normal female state of romantic love - basically). I am reluctant to let her go because of this powerful bond between the two of us when she is open with me. The bitter side of the dressing is when she 'unhooks'; it then seems like she is irritated with my affection and passion.

Unhooked, she is generally pretty distant and removed. She still calls me though...

The sex is awesome no matter what, nothing more to say there.

Sad part is, I'm almost fed up with this hot/cold action and am ready to take my heart off my sleeve - might be for the best, but, it doesn't mean breakup, it means I start playing her game against her; which means this whole relationship isn't as open and devotional as I want it :-(

[Begin Anew]

If it is, then it's in the same sign as your Ascendant, which is a very significant aspect between two people, and probably why you feel such a strong, emotional connection with her when she does open up to you.

[CappyCat]

I skimmed your posting but your title has me making a disapproving face...there is no "uh oh" :) It's possible my friend. In fact, two weeks ago, I was out and ran into a bachelorette party. I got to talking to her and found out she was an Aquarius marrying an Scorp :) It happens. I was proud of her for being able to pin one down in the first place! hehe.

Off the topic, we started talking about how she dated another Scorp before her fiance for three years and he played the same games and they acted a lot alike. Her fiance wasn't even having a bachelor party at all. Mind you this was when I was going through my, "I am getting over my Scorp stage" and I ran to tell my Libra I was out with about the Aquarian I ran into and low and behold...this place we were at which was only playing rock and alternative so far the whole night played OUR song...a hip hop song by Ne-Yo :(

[MMMAMMMAMMAMAY]

It is worth considering how you project that the aquarius was "playing game." Because she is naturally distant, you suspect that her action was intentionally a game (where one deceits, manipulate the other) because her action made you feel bad?

Also, hot/cold, thats just how aquarians function.

[Ashley]

seems to me there is a HUGE run on scorp-aquarius relationships on the board lately :-)

I just wanted to echo that the game playing notion is a BAD idea that can ONLY end badly, and that if you want this girl you are gonna have to accept that she just came out of a long term relationship, and do what is unnatural for you...be patient...and give her some rope to run with.

[Ashley]

Im sag rising with venus in sag but i must have enough scorpio in my chart to out-temper that ..ermm... *thing* that attracts you all to aquarius. they still scare me. lol!!!

[ScorpioNights]

So all the Sag in my chart's to blame for my Airy crushes on these rebels!

My Aquarian Ex came over yesterday and I really had to stop myself from telling him how gorgeous he looked. Aquarians get better with age. It's not fair!

[ixmatus]

ScorpedOut (and everybody):

I learned alot from this one - learned alot about being 'too much'. I also found out she was married - so I had an eruption, which is rare for me - but she basically told me that I was being too intense all the time - once in a while it was very alluring, but all the time is what was causing her to be driven away.

A good lesson to learn - be myself, just hold it back here and there to continue the magnetism I'm known for (I was very magnetic for her before we became 'official'...)

Thanks for the support everyone.

[Ashley]

Or...just be yourself and get hooked up with someone who likes you for your intense self (AND doesnt lie about being married!!.. ermm...that one might be important...God how i despise that sh**!)

Ixmatus, try going out with a scorp or a pisces ...or even a taurus for a change...just to note the differences in personality. it might be some good research for you to learn more about yourself and find what works for you!

[Sarinah]

I have been chatting with a Scorpio guy for 2 months and he is behaving just like you. We moved forward very fast too. I am separated and still healing but he is expecting too much from me right now. He said i am cold and scared for his affection and passion.....it's hard for me to explain to him because he misuderstands me all the time. He thinks i do not trust him, he needs to understand that i need to meet him first before i give him 100%. Well i have patience, time will tell :)

[Bou]

Inside 2 years i ve met 4 aquarius women, there is always the pull , the chemistry. But right now i can say that only one of the is truly friend, the one with whom i had no other relationship. with latest one i was almost a year in bad relationship, trust me, i am strong person i can carry both for a long time, but my suggestion is end it at the right time, have fun enjoy each other, but end it when the time is right. no matter how it hurts, and dont try to stay a friend at first, it will be easy for her to show that she is okay and gets easily along as friend, but u l l be the one who crawling from inside. If you want u can try to work it out, if u will, i am happy for it, after all there is always a small chances, but remember she need to change at some point too, if u dont see the change go, go , go.

if u want i can tell u whole story, and show exact weak points, and differences.