Sun Opposition Moon

[Carmen]

I have been trying to learn more about interpreting different aspects of my chart and I realized that I have a -110 Opposition between my Sun and Moon (Cancer Sun, Capricorn Moon). Others have told me that this can explain alot about why I have failed relationships and why I am very indecisive. Can anyone offer any knowledge on this to share with me? I am very interested in finding out all that I can.

[Danae]

Sun opposition Moon
People born when the Sun opposes the Moon have an internal struggle between their needs and their wants. In contrast to the Sun-Moon conjunction personality, the Full Moon personality is inclined towards lack of focus and indecision. Their ability to be objective is both an asset and a liability, simply because when they decide on one route, they are pulled in another direction at the same time. Something tugs at them, and they begin to question their stance. "But what if..." and "on the other hand..." are statements they can't help making and that plague them. While Sun conjunct Moon people have an Aries style about them, Sun opposition Moon natives have a distinct Libra energy about them, in that they are always aware of the opposing point of view, the other side of the coin, and so forth.

Their inner struggle is most obvious in their vitality, as both the Sun and the Moon strongly influence the vitality. They have many ups and downs, and it is hard to know if it is physical or emotional. In fact, it's likely both. These people might spend a week working hard, and the following week they lack motivation and find it hard to accomplish much. Their energy fluctuates more than most people, and it is very much a reflection of what is going on inside.

The messages they received in their early lives in terms of what was expected of them were conflicting, and even opposite. Some people born under the Full Moon viewed their parents as two very different and separate individuals who each wanted something very different from their child. Their parents or parent figures "stood for" two very different things, and their child internalized this. There may have been some emotional frustration in connection with the father and a stifling of the go by the mother.

It is hard for Sun opposition Moon people to find happiness within themselves. They tend to look outside of themselves for fulfillment. They are inclined to form serious relationships at an early age, simply because of this tendency to try to find an answer to happiness from an "other". They are prone to divorce, partly because of this prematurity, and partly because their needs are complicated. Full Moon people are also more apt to seek counseling because of this need to find answers.

These people appear to be very self-aware. They entertain a myriad of different points of view and perspectives. They are excellent psychologists and are able to read character and uncover motivations--but with an important caveat: if they are too emotionally close to the situation, they fumble. The truth is, although they appear to know much about how people tick, they spend a good part of their lives uncovering more of themselves and learning about themselves. Generally, this is done through comparisons or through the mirror of relationships.

They can most certainly frustrate the people who are close to them with their indecisiveness and frequent changes of mind (and of heart). A word to those who deal with this on a day-to-day basis: their changes of heart are not a form of insincerity--they are the result of an internal struggle that is very real and very confusing to live with! Sun opposition Moon people can be temperamental, insecure, and very sensitive. The ability to put themselves in someone else's shoes, and to consider other points of view, is a true asset. However, at some point in their lives, they need to uncover what it is they truly want. This comes easy to New Moon people, and can be a life-long struggle for Full Moon people. On the other hand, it is extremely easy for a Full Moon personality to understand others' points of view--something that doesn't come as easily to a New Moon personality. Sun opposition Moon people are generally interesting and complex. Born under a Full Moon, they can be a bit "loony", perhaps manifesting itself in a unique sense of humor.

Look for a planet that might trine and sextile the Sun-Moon opposition for a way to release the tension the opposition creates. Somehow, some way, through that planet, its sign, and its house position, the Sun opposition Moon person can find an "answer" to the struggle. Look also to the sign polarity involved for more details of the struggle. If it's Aries and Libra, for example, there is a conflict between two equal drives to be independent and to depend on others.

Some Famous People with Sun Opposition Moon: Lisa Bonet (the aspect is exact, or partile), Alicia Witt.

People born with a Sun-Moon tension can spend much of their lives struggling to balance the principles of the Sun and the Moon within their personalities, and will bring this struggle to some degree into their relationships. The urge to form meaningful relationships is generally powerful, but relationships can be as much of a struggle to these natives as the inner conflict is to themselves. This inner conflict occurs with the square, opposition, and quincunx. The desire to find meaningful relationships is stronger than it is when the natal Sun and Moon form a sextile or trine, and early relationships in particular can be challenging until the stressful aspects are recognized as an inner tension.

A woman with Sun opposition Moon, who had lived through her parents' difficult divorce as a child, complained that her husband seemed to be quite complacent about their marriage, simply expecting that it would work out without much effort. His Sun and Moon form a sextile. When faced with a relationship problem, her instinct was to work on it actively, but her husband did not see such a need. In fact, he did not "see" the problems as clearly as his wife did. He felt that she was looking for problems that didn't exist, while she felt he was taking the relationship for granted by not addressing problems as they arose.

A stressful Sun-Moon aspect seems to imprint the native with the (often unconscious) expectation that relationships can very easily fail, and the natives will be especially aware of conflicts in partnership, taking them to heart. The upside of this natal conflict is found in this sensitivity itself! Those with a Sun-Moon opposition, in particular, are generally willing to work out problems in a relationship due to their acute awareness and sensitivity to the conflicts that arise in their partnerships. However, if they face a partner who denies the problems exist in the first place, as in the example above, they can easily become frustrated. This is because learning and growing through relationships is a basic urge - so basic that it is a need. These natives are learning about themselves through their relationships, and need partners who are willing to be a part of that process. Sun square Moon suggests an internal "war" between two equally powerful desires: the desire for emotional commitment and the desire for autonomy. The native can be quite defensive and even belligerent with others, and often over-sensitive, which can take its toll in personal relationships. Partners may complain that the native often seems to be spoiling for a fight, and relationships can be turbulent until the native learns to compromise.

[Karen]

Ha! Danae said it all but I'll add my 2 cents LOL.I am a Full moon baby myself girls.
And exactly--I had some serious relationships early on.I've been married and divorced sadly and married again.I said sadly because you guessed it--I regretted it for a long time.I was morbidly depressed.
And when the husband I have now thought "problems, what problems?" I was depressed again.I can tell you we finally figured it out together.
I have spent a lot of time in self-examination, and in psychotherapy--and--I'm a social worker too.
I'm strangely happy now and very accepting--not always deliriously so, but never miserably tormented either like I was.
The key *is* exactly to know what I most want and need and solve the paradox..right again.
You're right, btw, Danae.I am always pulled in 2 directions--but maybe even more so because I *am* a Libra.
Libras themselves have the devil of a time making up their minds, and yes--I will work hard for a while, and then--collapse- and do absolutely nothing.:-p
Matter of fact as some here already know--I'm disabled now, as I worked too long and hard in dangerous and unhealthy places. (emotionally and physically). I have an odd illness that is complicated(not fatal though, thank the Goddess) and is a result of the latter .
Oh--and besides of course driving myself and everyone else crazy! ;-)

[Shygirl]

I am a full moon baby too Karen. Now I know why we connect so well...:-)

[Karen]

O my goodness that's cool.-And that *does* make sense Shygirl that we understand one another!
;-)

[Karen]

BTW, I do have a looney sense of humour allright.It's more like a profound sense of the ridiculous.LOLOL :-p

[Shygirl]

I know exactly what you're talking about. It's the type of humor that appears *looney*, but in reality it's based on acute perception of people, & life. Sometimes it makes people a bit nervous & they don't seem to know whether they are supposed to laught at it or take it seriously...:-) And you get a very nervous laughter in response...:-) Does this happen to you too, Karen?

[Karen]

Sometimes it makes people a bit nervous & they don't seem to know whether they are supposed to laught at it or take it seriously...:-) And you get a very nervous laughter in response...
:-) Does this happen to you too, Karen?
Karen hrer:

Yes! all the time--that's *exactly* what happens.And I'm not exagerrating one iota.
So few get it--THANK YOU!

[Shygirl]

WOW. I am blown away by your description. I was born on a full moon's night , as such I have Sun-Moon opposition in my chart. I can resonate with a lot of stuff that you've written here. Thanks Danae....:-)

[Carmen]

My goodness, everything here seems completely right!! I totally understand the fluctuations of my thoughts and feelings when involved with someone. Thank you Danae!

And thank you very much Karen for your personal input, your story is definitely something I will keep in mind. I have dealt with men already who are unaware of the issues that I sense and confront them with (hence the same line "Problems, what problems"). It is completely frustrating and when these men are unaware of what I feel so strongly about I usually just let go emotionally, mentally and eventually physically. Does anyone know which planet placements I should look for in a possible partner that would go harmoniously?

[GemMoon]

I have felt this once before and currently but I dont have any sun/moon aspects in my chart at all which is very puzzling to me.

[Danae]

I can understand the polarity between planets. Although my planets are not in opposition, I experience a difficult square between Aquarius and Taurus. I am constantly pulled in two different directions, and this is actually the challenge that I am working on right now. What can I do for myself to satisfy both aspect or at least to meet in the middle??

Very difficult, Aquarius wants to break all ties and Taurus wants to dig it's feet in the ground.

[Karen]

Oh I understand *that* Danae.
And that is my husband's Sun/Moon aspect--Taurus Sun square Aquarius moon!
he is both solid and down to earth, and very forward thinking.
It *can* get confusing, though! (as you well know!)