SHOULD I STAY IN LOVE WITH THIS AQUARIUS MAN....

[~Sweet~]

I don't even know if I will get a response to this but I am a sun taurus woman and just got out of a unexpectedly "short" relationship with a sun aquarius man. My story is somewhat long but to make it short...the aqua knew I wasn't interested in him at first because of the cold shoulder I gave him repeatedly (mostly because of past relationship issues). I didn't want anything to do with him especially since he planned on moving out of state. I offered to be a friend to him because long distance usually don't work...but oh no...he was sooo convinced he'd prove me wrong and assured me he would do all he could to make it work...somehow with his constant pursuing, reassurance with actions that matched his words, and intelligence...I opened up and let him in and my guard dropped. He was soooo infatuated so in love and even said he loved me. Told all his friends he found the one...his family...took me over to meet his parents...the whole nine. He would call so many times throughout the day or beg to see me...and when we did see each other it was 1st class all the way. He is by far the most amazing man I have ever met. Keep in mind...he was all of that when he was home. As soon as he left town not even a full two weeks later...all of that came to a screeching hault after he accused me of having horrible communication with him (mind you he is the one who became distant in communication while he was already HUNDREDS of miles away). Why go through all of that effort to break my guard down and tell the world you love me just to become a coldhearted distant short with words baffoon. He promised he wouldn't hurt me knowing what I've been through. I don't get it! He could of became an ass back home! He had the nerve to say to me "I wish things were different between us, I do love you and I'll c u around, maybe it might be different", and I may get a phone call or text from him every let's say 2-3 days. What am I suppose to do with that? He is VERY STUBBORN, is ALWAYS right even when he KNOWS for a fact he's wrong. The taurus I am, I can be just as stubborn so talkin to him and he talkin to me was like 2 bricks facing each other. I'm willing to compromise but mr aqua wouldn't compromise if it saved his life. If I mention anything emotional even now, NO RESPONSE..DEAD SILENCE..NADA! Was it all MIND GAMES? I'm so confused and would appreciate some input. He was so perfect and attentive to my needs and it all changed the moment he left and no doubt probably ran into temptation. What we had was what I and everyone who knew us thought was the perfect relationship. We were super compatible...I mean extremely compatible. How can he just walk away from that and appear to not be lookin back? 2 bad for me I now have to try to get over this otherwise perfect gentleman that entered n2 my life and I will but is he worth sticking around for... help please

[Donna]

Sweet,

I feel the same way about the things an aquarius will put you through, to see if you have staying power. It's like they hurt you to see if you will stay and if you do then you truely love them. Because although they want to wander, and be out of reach, they still want to know that they have someone holding it down for them. And deep down we are all dealing with the insecure little boy.
You have great insight into this maze of the aquarius where up is down and down is up. Aquarius and Taurus are so different in emotional make up and both are very stubborn and fixed in their own way. One has to make compromises and this is difficult for both. Check into a compatibility profile for the two of you. Time of birth is very important on both and you will get some incredible feedback. I have tons of them done on me and my aquarius and they are so accurate I have actually cried. This is where you will get alot of understanding and knowledge about your signs together. And it is very in depth. Thanks for sharing your insight.

[Gina]

Hi girls, I have read your post and i'm pretty curious about this type of guy because I feel I'm just about to fall in love with one of this kind. He is divorced, extremely charming and coquettish. We don't live in the same city, but we are really close. I have met him a year ago because of my job and I like him from the first moment but he was dating someone at that time. One year later i had to contact him againg for working purposes and he started flirtting me and I like it. I have the feeling we have met years before. Last week he came to my city and wanted to spend the whole day with me and to meet my mother....that was weird!!! my mom is a nice girl so I had no problems introducing him to her. She loved him, because he didn't stop making jokes and treating her like a lady. The next day was awesome too but he has to leave. Of course we told me how much he likes me, adores me??? and want to have sex with me..lol ( we dind't) ha,ha
I expected to receive a call after he landed but nothing...and nothing for the next 3 days......how can be possible!! I had to call him! and he talked to me like nothing happen. Well, I thought he might be busy..or so and I don't want to be that crazy girl that seems to be so desperated to call him every day. What do you suggest me to do? I really like him and want to know him better but after reading how an aquarious behaves I'm feeling a little bit scared.

[~Sweet~]

And you should be! Take our advice...do not get your heart involved with this guy. He already showed you a classic sign by not calling you when he landed in town. Yes, he could of been busy but if he were interested in contacting you, within THREE days you would of heard from him. In fact, you would have heard from any man (even an Aqua) before then if he were serious. Just so you know, his telling you he wanted to have sex with you was a TEST! Doesn't matter that you didn't sleep with him (it's great that you didn't). What matters is how you responded to him when he said that. My advice is to keep it light. Do not let him catch on to the fact that you like him that much. Be a challenge at all times. Do not take what I am saying as biting advice or advice from a salted wound. All of us posters in internet land and those stories you may have heard about Aquas in person, take heed to our advice or get ready to be heartbroken and disappointed.

[Donna]

Sweet,

I totally agree with you, I have been a poster for the past few weeks and I was telling my Sissy the other day that I was amazed at the aquarius postings, all the aquarius advice is the same. you can tell who the veteran aquriaus dealers are and who the newbie aquarius dealers are. All you newbies take are veteran advice. Keep it very light with this man. Aqua boy has issues when it comes to love they can't seperate it from buddy friendship. They also have problems seperating love from finances, if your not careful enough to set boundaries from the beginning, you will feel like he is a business associate. Another thing is they are emotionally detached and can seperate themselves from emotional issuses. Cheating is not cheating to them because they are emotionally detached from the act.
But don't you cheat. Then it becomes their version of faithful. He can play but you better not. And he will never admit he's played, when asked directly if he has he will not lie, what he will do is turn you around in a verbal circle. No one can double talk better then an aquarius except for a like minded gemini. These two together have a lanquage of their own.

[Geminimoon aka Aquadar]

Not taking your statement about only veterens knowing what they're talking about personal. But it seems that as long as it's in agreeance w/your opinions then its right? Seems so long as they're negative. Just an FYI.....I dated an Aqua for seven years in which we broke up because I needed MY space (Gemini/moon), as U said about the like minds. And I am dating two now. One of them ....five years. The other a yr. and a half. So IMO.....it's not fair for U to say that only the veterans know what they're talking about so long as it's negative feelings. However, I do understand your feelings w/them being hurt and all. Who wants to go through that! (Hence, the Gemini moon w/ her cooky-unure, unstable mind) lol....Go figure.

[Donna]

We are talking about the one and only, the unavailable Aquarius. Act like you are the busy one and do not call him. And do not ask him why he didn't call you. Act as unavailable as
he is. And if you cant then don't even bother with this guy. Because to him the fact that he hasn't called and acted like nothing happened, thats because to him nothing has happened.
Aquarius are labled the genius of all the zodaic and from my experience they are very intelligent. When it comes to love, they haven't got a clue. Keep him guessing, when he calls act cool and dont begin your sentences with I FEEL. this will scare the S--t out of him.
Begin with I think. They are lost in the realm of feelings. Always keep him guessing.
This is a very complex man. The do not need a women under foot it goes against their need for personal freedom. This is a very independent man who is more comfortable at an orgy then in an intimate one on one. The group man is everywhere and anywhere then where he should be, alone with the women who rides out all his storms. Good Luck!!!!!

[Gina]

Thank you girls for your valuable advice. As Donna said he is incredible smart and always ready for something new. He already wanted me as a partner in a new venture he is planning..I guess he is always planning...yesterday he called me 3 times to talk about that subject so..as a diligent capricorn as I am, I did all the research and I called him back later to tell him about the findings. I heard a female voice in the back and he told me he will call me back in 30 min..as you can imagine he hasn't called me yet..and it's supposed he is very interested on the findings..imagine if he wasn't. Probably he is seeing someone else in his town, but how can be this possible if this is the hard type of guy to catch?
Definitely, I will cool down this feeling because I'm start realizing as you both say that this guy is emotionally detached. It's a shame though, cause I have felt such conection with him since the first moment I saw him. I always want to help him and some days I caught myself thinking wich papers or articles I will send him etc..to help him to do his job ( he is a politician) Sweet is right! it could be worse by now if we have had sex..cause just with his amazyng way of kissing I'm a bit off this world,ha,ha,ha
Have a great weekend girls and let's try to go out tonight to enjoy life without them!!

[~Sweet~]

Lol OMG Donna,

You are soooo on point with that last post girl!

"And he will never admit he's played, when asked directly if he has he will not lie, what he will do is turn you around in a verbal circle. No one can double talk better then an aquarius except for a like minded gemini."

Yes indeed! You have to be alert to what you're saying to aquas at all times. They are like lil sponges soaking up all information from every direction. So be careful and stay on point at all times and PLEASE remember what you tell them. Aquas remember EVERYTHING lol. I'm talking years back even. And trust, when the situation presents itself, they will recall what you've said and will spit it out to you. If you do not remember you're now a victim of the double talk and head f**k game. Knowing that you do not remember, they will insert some falsehood to what you've said if it ends up giving them what they want (a clever form of manipulation of which they are damn clever and masters at manipulating you without you knowing) as punishment for not remembering. In their huge heads, the piss-bearer believes if you can't remember what you've said to them then you probably lied! I'm telln ya they are twisted but oh so adorable I know (sigh) lol.

"Keep him guessing, when he calls act cool and dont begin your sentences with I FEEL. this will scare the S--t out of him."------ so true lol so very true indeed!

It's a shame most of the posts you will come across Gina has the same tune. We are sorry but we just don't want you to end up...well....being another poster lol. Think of aquas this way (because after all they are beautiful and highly intelligent people)... they are sort of like the painting of Mona Lisa...so beautiful, so intriguing and so addictive but unfortunately...the truth lies underneath. Good day ladies!

[~Sweet~]

Gina,

You seem like you are a really nice person. Caps usually are. You are diligent, open-minded, fiercely loyal, great listener, dependable, trustworthy and all that good stuff. But from your posts, you are also opening yourself up to disaster with this man (not to mention he is an aqua). Trust me, I've been a part of the rubba dub dub hit u back in 30 when out the tub club too! Please stop doing things for him. I know it's tempting and you want him to know you are there for him. It's sad to say, but you must do the opposite of what you normally would do to gain respect from an Aqua man. They respond to tough love aka a challenge. Be careful, they are so crafty when it comes to manipulation. Sometimes it comes in the form of "hey I'm planning on doing so and so but I need so and so information to do it or I need so and so money to start it or I need a person to do so and so"... you get my drift. He knows you are into him and now he will use that. That was another test to see just how far you would go to help him out. Next time tell him BLUNTLY "I THINK (not I feel) that is a wonderful idea, but I'm sorry I cannot help you with that." The more you say NO the more he will become interested...even from miles away. When you say NO, his computer brain will take the NO process it, analyze it, and store it. You'll hear a period of silence on phone or if in front of you you'll see a blank stare. Say nothing becuz he's thinking and computing lol. Suddenly, a bell rings in his head OMG she said NO to me...I like her...I wonder why she said NO...I gotta do something to make her say YES... u get my drift? I'm sure the connection was real! In his defense, he probably was intrigued by u. The problem is aquas are intrigued by everyone! And you just can't be available to ALL! So someone's gotta get the cold shoulder. Don't let that someone be you Gina. You deserve better girl!

[Donna]

Sweet,

You know you aquarius sooo damn well. I think no turns them on. If you give and give and give to this man he will beleave it is his do right to take and take. They beleave they are demigods and either your his loyal follower (slave) or you are no one.
I'm not bashing, alot can be learned from the Aquariun, tread carefully and learn to read between the lines. Because what you see is not what you get and up is down. This is an one of the air signs and freedom to do everything and anyone is there thing, I'm not say he will, he just wants to know he can. Dont demand or you will see the twisted side of this man. He can leave and never look back and be like oh well and off he is on his next conquest. If you want to be the center of a man's world this isn't the man who that will ever make you be the center of his world. Everyone is the center of the his world. Everyone is special. Very complex, unpredictable and contradictory is the Aquarian.

[Melanie]

I am starting to believe the aqua man is a demigod afterall....he acts like one! He thinks so highly of himself and doesn't give a hoot of whatever people think about him...he is always sending everyone to the devil!!!

My aqua man has gone onto one of his crazy escapades again, after telling him he is my NUMBER 1....he is not replying to any of my messages and I think it should be me to send him to the devil this time!!!

In any case, I still think aquas are wonderful, I admire their nerve to do anything that is unorthodox and out of the norm....their inner strength and carefree attitude. Maybe aquas have a lesson to teach us all.....

[Donna]

Melanie,

He will be back, theses stange creatures need lots of room to room to roam, it's how there wired. The need to go into solitude to recharge. Give them there space and they come back refreshed like nothing ever happened.