Virgo Man and Mixed Messages . . . Any Woman with Virgo Man Experiance?

[Mimi]

Virgo men are known to be 'shy' about their feelings. Is it true when they think they have found the 'one' they will pull away for a looong period of time (years) until they come back...only to find out that the person no longer loves them???

Virgo man told me his feelings straight out! He said ''i will say it again I LOVE YOU AND I CANT BE WITHOUT YOU you were my first and i hope my last'' Then suddenly and so quickley there is *dead silence* not returning my calls and txts.. why are they like this? Very confusing. This guy has Virgo sun, Pisces Moon and Virgo Venus...hmmm...anyone can help me?

[Danae]

Yeah, then unfortunately nothing is going to change over night. I've known my Pisces for over a year now, and I've just found creative ways to get a hold of him. Playfully asking him historical trivia questions (he loves history & trivia) or I sent him a cool mix CD... he started responding more often, because he feels like I 'get' him. Don't take it personally when he doesn't respond. But also, don't rely on it. Be his friend and if things work out great, but if not, you've got a good friend. don't keep all your eggs in one basket. (that's the advice I would give myself :)

-m

[Mimi]

Thanks eternal day dreamer .. but by not putting all your eggs in one basket i feel there is no pleasure in love ( thanks to my venus in the eigth house which loves intense relationships and my venus in pisces which gives love selflessly and cud say falls in love blindly and get all dreamed up in an illusion ive created myself!) Ive had so much drama in love. lol!. But ur deff right not to put all ur eggs in one basket i kno...but i think that what love is isnt it? surrendering all ur feelings to this person and its only 50/50 that they will either love u for it or leave u for it. I dont give up on relationships lightly...with this guy i was talking about ive been through hell and heaven with him i really dont know what am doing...this year its been 5 years...i dont know what will happen next.

[Mimi]

But thanks to him i have totally turned my overall life's attitudes and attitudes towards love as well! that guy inspired me to be more hard working and wake up he also inspired me not to put all my eggs in one basket too otherwise ul be hurt..like he showed me..thats how you learn..with pain (our sun trine pluto) perhaps he totally changed me, into a better person! ive deff seen the change..its amazing how relationships can transform you..(venus trine pluto) i have in my chart...i feel if u want to be a different person throw all your eggs in one basket and totally give in! get hurt and dont let go! u''ll be transformed for the better

[Danae]

I know the battle of Venus in Pisces. I actually have a Venus/Mars conjunction in Pisces, but the rest of my chart leans towards Earth and my Sun sign is Air.... so I'm continually trying to control my Pisces instincts and trying to be practical towards my Pisces lover. Ahhh... I've been so disillusioned by my Venus in Pisces that I no longer 'put all my eggs in one basket.' Another lesson I'm ready to learn... moderation and balance.

[Danae]

I was just thinking about your comment... you said 5 years? Has his behavior been consistent for the past 5 years or not until recently? That could be a huge indicator of his intentions.

[Mimi]

Its complicated
its only that through this relationship i have become more self-aware i have changed so much in a good way i am happier now and more focused in my life especially career goal focused and hard working, (becuase of the pain) he is constantly putting me through challenges and pain becuase of the pressure of the emotians..this may sound reli stupid (why wud u be interested in a guy that hurt's you?) I have noticed this guy has transformed me so much and he still is, i feel without pain there is no point. I am fascinated and at the same time disturbed by constantly putting myself through the shit..ha ha..at the same time..i love him a lot. ??! dont ask why. I suppose its the venus in the eighth house..i feel the intensisty of my emotians and i crave passion and with passion comes pain. I have a lot of pluto aspects in my chart concerning my venus..i suppose i cant get away from the dark side of relationships.. like i said i am both fascinated by it and disturbed by it but i cant get away from it. Though venus in pisces doesnt help either..my venus in neptune. Its an opportunity for deception and loving someone who will never love me the same back..i am probaly doomed

[Karen]

BTW--no you're probably not doomed!

[Karen]

Hi Mimi. I have been involved wiht at least one Virgo, but like C said--not many!I've known quite a few men with Venus in Virgo(I have Mars in Virgo)or with Moon in Virgo.
The Venus in Virgo guys were usually Cancers or Libras so it worked better.
The only one I loved or came close to loving was not a very kind person.He was also quite unavailable.
He was very much a Virgo in that he was logical, and clever, and worked hard.He had sharp ideas, and I too learned quite a bit from him like you were saying..
But, he could be very nasty--which is not how most Virgos are.
I do get the idea from most Earth signs that feelings are not their strong point.;-)
Nonetheless, I honestly see it like this: if a person can't committ even to being around me for long--(forget about a committed romantic relationship)then he's not there for me and I sadly, can't expect anything.
Of course I found this out only by thinking something would come of it, and waiting to hear from him--(once in awhile I did too)--but nothing changed that much. :-/
I agree some Virgos have difficulty facing up to love, and/or talking about feelings, but, again--if a person, even another woman friend, keeps "forgetting" to call or won't show up --even if he or she wishes they could be there and hurts about it--we still can't be together can we?

[Ionne]

I met a Virgo guy by chance , I had no intention to be more than business partner , we met for lunch , had the best time , we just clic , the conversation was awesome.. I met him again for lunch again had an awesome time , we talk about everything , we could tell eachother anything and talk about anything. whe we were saying good bye he kissed me and I was shoked .. because it was ike we were together forever .. he apologized for it , we used to text eachother all the time. and because of this he stopped , he doesn't call, text or nothing. I think, with Virgo guys , is that they can be vary discipline , he knows we can not get to anything , since I am a married woman. So he doesn't even make it a chance to get to anything . Virgo guys know exactly what they want , if they can not have it , they move on . Is the way they are supposed to I guess. (everybody) .. With respect to me.. I hate it that he kiss me because he is charming, handsome, completly pulled the rug under my feet.. my world changed.. I wanted him eventhough it was just wrong. I am an Aries woman , men like this are very appealing to Aries women. because they are people that know what they want .. and people in control.. a refreshing thing for an impulsive Aries.
As much pain it will cause you ..let him go.. I know you have grabbed the phone 100 times , and put it away... just forget him, they are confusing , beautiful beings.. If he wants you he will call, if not just live life !, meet other people, just not another Virgo guy..

[Eric]

Hello,

I just came across this forum, and was reading some of the comments (ok I admit, actually I dutifully read them all and made sure I got all the details from all of them :-) )
I d like to make a comment myself.
You guest it I m a virgo, I m not sure about ascendant and planets and all that, but to whom it may interest I was born 31/08/72 at 6:00 am in Liege, Belgium.

I m a very anylitical and rational person, so for me, the jury is still out about astrology,
but I must admit that I m very intrigue by the personality description and so I keep my
mind open. The virgo personality descriptions often make me smile, because they are
some time, so right on target :-) It s like

"Hey, how did you know that ? How did you manage to read my so dearfully and
painstakingly build complex personality buried so deep inside my intricate brain ? :-)
O my god, I feel so naked now ... :-) :-) " well you get the picture

Yet, it seems from what I read that many women still find it a bit confusing to understand
how virgo think. I don t how if there is such a thing as "tipical virgo behaviour" but I can
tell you at least how I (used to) think and behave.

First thing is everything I do has a reason.

I recall several occasions when I dated women, and here s how it works in my puny brain,

Ok, tomorrow you have a date with this girl, so, set a reminder, don t be late, check the trafic
at the time you have to leave, check the gaz in your car (considere cleaning the car ? ... you never know) don t forget to dress neat and correctly, check your phone battery, check the restaurant reservation.
If you don t have any, check the area to know all available restaurants around so you can rapidely
chose one within the list in your brain (look on the net for reviews to know wich one are the best)
When proposing the restaurant, make it look casual and random, girls prefer spontaneity,
but still be attentive to any sign of hesitation on her side (she doesn t like this choise) and to
quickly propose an alternative.

And yet, after all these efforts to make it all perfect, ... emotionaly it doesn t mean much.
Actually it does, but it s kept in a different part of my mind, a part that is under control
by the reason. What it means is I can be charming, entertaining, have interesting discusions,
make a few compliment on the way she dress or her nice hair, be interested in her and
genuinly listen what she says, try to understand her, even tell a few little things about myself
(not too personnal of course :-) ) well all that and more if i can. It s like an act but without the
will to fool, to hide to cheat or to try to gain something, it s just a will to make it all pleasant
and perfect.

The big thing is that all that is part of a "I m making up my mind about you in a very cold
and rational way" at least it is the state of mind I have when going to the date, then as time
pass and I get interested reason is more and more letting way to emotion, but veeeeery
slowly and still carefull. I know it seems unemotional and cruel, and honestly, I hate to hurt
the feelings of a person. I ll never go as far as saying things like "I love you and i cant be without you"
because I know that could set things in motion that I might not be able to control, I wouldn t say
it even after several months. In the virgo "logic" however I understand that some virgo man
can say things like that because it s all part of the "making it all perfect for you" thinking.

So for me it s usualy on the first few dates that I try to make up my mind
it doesn t even need to reach the bedroom :-). If it s a no go, then I move on, and yes, in that case, there is no use calling me or emailing me. I just figure that because I showed that my normal way
of behaving is to make a lot of contact and have a lot of attention when I m intersted, in my logic, if I don t interact with you anymore it simply means I m not interested anymore. So we might as well
just move on.
You could get me to go out with you again but it will be by politness only, and the confusing part is that even in that case I would go into most of the same
effort and trouble as for a "real" date. Just beacause I want to be nice and that the girl has at least a
pleasant time.
Honestly being persistant could work, after all I could have been wrong ... but don t put too
much hope into that. Even under the most casual talking I m constantly (even after years of
relashionship) probing and evaluating, this is the cold and reason part of me. Now of course
as I said, given time, reason is less and less in control and emotion (yes there is some in virgo :-) )
are taking over, in that case I tend to overlook things that my reason sees and maybe don t like
too much... I m not a monster of coldness after all, I m picky and difficult to please, but once
I m convinced, I m extremely honest, dedicated and loving.

Now that I told you all this I must confess that, I m now 35, and that I ve learned from my mistakes,
and that I m not anymore as picky and cold as it seems from what I said. Things have tamed a lot with me growing up, I reply to email and calls, and try to be more open and telling :-) I let go and don t try
to control everithing anymore (except for that wild tongue, always prone to critics, that one I keep
under very close watch :-) ) . I understand that the crude virgoan way wasn t very nice. But I can still know and understand what is hidding deep inside that virgo brain ;-) ;-) ... you cannot hide anything from a virgo after all ;-)

Oh, yes, btw, the reason I was reading this forum in the first place is bcs I met a girl
at my new work place. I m single and she has a boyfriend. Long story short, I m
totaly crazy about her. I know her for 6 months now, we have lots of discusions
and a great contact. She thinks exactly as I do and we share the same values. Although
she is also very different in her approach to life, but I love it the way she see things,
I love to listen to her and I have the impression that she s openning my mind.
She told me once that she s into astrology and that she s an Aquarian asd capricorn.
And no, I never told her what I feel for her. Although very often I make (in a seemingly
very emotionaly detached way) subtle comments or things (small attentions) to show that
I have a lot of interest in her. She is so perspicace and intelligent (maybe even more
than me :-) ) I m sure she knows exactly what I think, much like the same way I understand her.
But I don t want to annoy her or make her feel under siege. So at the moment this relation
is like a stallmate, no one is going to move across the dangerous and tacitely agreed no mansland. :-)
After all that time I look at this girl, maybe not perfect, but I m certainly not either, yet she s one
to whom I could and willing to give and share a lot and for a long time.
Ah well, time will tell ...

[Ionne]

Wow, is facinating meeting a Virgo men willing to talk about his feelings and the way they think..Thank you !!!.. I have encounter a few virgos myself and have best friends dating Virgos, all I can say you guys are facinating men... in a devilish way. have a lot of control over girls emotions.. boy Am I glad I have never fall in love with one , there would be my true fall .. I have never suffer in a relationship.. I know I would with a Virgo guy.. no thanks !.. But I can admit , all virgos I have met , are great looking, intriguing, and distant but with a magnetic power over girls ..
Thanks :) I will pass along the info ..

[Eric]

I m glad I can serve :-)
Actually I m pretty proud of my devilish way :-) :-)