Virgo Man and Mixed Messages . . . Any Woman with Virgo Man Experiance?

[Mimi]

Virgo men are known to be 'shy' about their feelings. Is it true when they think they have found the 'one' they will pull away for a looong period of time (years) until they come back...only to find out that the person no longer loves them???

Virgo man told me his feelings straight out! He said ''i will say it again I LOVE YOU AND I CANT BE WITHOUT YOU you were my first and i hope my last'' Then suddenly and so quickley there is *dead silence* not returning my calls and txts.. why are they like this? Very confusing. This guy has Virgo sun, Pisces Moon and Virgo Venus...hmmm...anyone can help me?

[The Usual Unsuspect]

Yes, I need a new one. Hopefully one I'll be getting paid for!

[The Usual Unsuspect]

I don't know... at least some food leftovers? Do I really expect that much? ;)

[Mimi]

Hay christa joy yep i cud see what u mean by that deff! Virgo;s they just seem to be tooooo coool for their own good and very plaful not being able to handle negativity in a relationship like talking things over with them? about problems in ur relationship? no waay...never work..they will always get angry and blame you...their prob jus soo senstive they cant deal with it. Their so cold..they just cant understand those feelings someone throws on them.

I wouldnt be suprised if he led u on..prob was bored and just felt like doing it..plus jus keeping u to his side...the virgo man prob has soo many secrets soo many gf's u wud never kno about!..am so sorry about that experiance u had..i hope u can find someone who will treat u thw way anyone wud want to be and deserved to be treated

[marsey]

I have not dated a virgo man but I am a virgo myself and I can tell that our fears can make us run off and hide sometimes. However, when the feelings are very strong and intense and I really like a person I won't run off. I don't know what is with this guy though.

[Mimi]

Hmmm...thankyou for your reply..i dont know whats wrong with this guy toooo...altho he didntt run off the exact time he said i love u and i want u my last bla bla bla..i did upset him by mistake then he disappeared for 6 months ..came back..everything is ok now we are talking but stil its the same thing..he wil disppear for weeks months sometimes i dont kno where he is..i will never call him or txt him theres not point i kno his game..or i dont even think he aware he is playing a game! thats jus the way they aree!

[marsey]

ooooh....now I understand. He ran off because he was upset. Virgo has a bad habit of this. I can say it because I have done this myself. Basically, piss me off and I won't talk to you. There really is no justification for this behavior other than to say that virgo can get on their high horse at times if they feel a person has done something to upset them. I have learned not to do this anymore because it is very destructive to relationships and can keep a virgo from having a real meaningful one. It's hard to explain, almost like the person became imperfect because they upset virgo (ridiculously unreasonable, I know).

Now as for this guy, maybe he isn't evolved or mature enough to know this behavior is counterproductive to the relationship. If he does come back around and you are still interested in him maybe you can find some way to make him understand that unless he is willing to deal with problems directly instead of acting tempermental and disappearing that the relationship won't go very far.

[marsey]

Sometimes yes it can mean that. Maybe you've done something to upset or annoy them or at least they PERCEIVE it that way. Virgo can be tempermental and oversensitive at times when it isn't warranted. Honestly, I think they use perceived slights as an excuse to put distance in a relationship. Unless this guy has enough self-awareness to realize his behavior I don't give the relationship much of a chance.

[marsey]

Yes. And it's maddening. The difference between virgo and Scorpio in this aspect is that Virgo can be pliable where Scorpio isn't.

[Fairey]

I was married to a virgo. Virgo and scorpio men have many similarities. They're both cautious, observant, take a long time trusting, hard working, and loyal. My ex didn't need physical distance, he needed emotional distance. Virgos seem very uncomfortable with expressing their emotions. The two are just as different as they are similar. My virgo ex was very insensitive, critical and suspicious of the emotional, his own and others. Scorpio men seem very different in that respect and actually welcome emotional involvment, is sensitive, and want to be understood. There's other differences too but I'm still trying to figure my scorpio out. With any man regardless of sun sign some are clearly ready for committment and attachment and some who aren't.

[Begin Anew]

The Scorpio guy I was with for 3 years could be very emotionally distant at times, usually when there was something heavy brewing beneath the surface (I think I could detect this because of my Moon in Scorpio); but it took him a while to really open up to me. When he did though, the flood gates really came down, and I found that he had a very deep well of emotion behind his rather "tough" exterior (Leo rising, Cap Moon). He could also be pretty critical and would often try to project how he was feeling onto me. I think in these ways he's pretty similar to Virgo men.

[Fairey]

Very interesting. I'm still learning about these complex scorpio men (but that's another thread). They sure have enough of them.

At least scorps "possess" a deep well of emotions brewing to come out. In my 7 years with virgo, I rarely saw him connect with his emotional side and I wondered if his analytical nature made him lack feelings altogether. He was attracted to and in some ways I think admired my emotional side but at the same time wanted to make me think I was crazy for being so "deep".

[Mimi]

Yep marsey u are right...i mean..thats it! u are mature enough to see this that avoiding is very destructive to a relationship its horrible ..i dont kno weather he will see this tho..