Where to begin....UPDATE on my scorpio story.....

[Enchanted Taurus]

......well to make this as short as possible, I waited 6 months for my scorpio man. I finally gave up on him and on us. I was waisting too many days, sick over him in bed, in depression and loosing out on fun with friends and family. I tried to take back control of my life and I gave him one last shot, one last opportunity to prove that I was holding on for a good reason, but he failed to proove that to me, so I let it go, let him go, let it all go. The following weekend, I booked myself solid. I had a blast with old friends and new. I set up my internet accounts that I had closed. I regained some control and happiness over my life. One week later, I bump into him at work. We were cordial. When I got to my seat, I had multiple emails from him. Small chit chat. By 24 hours later, I had a million emails, phone calls, text messages and even face to face visits from him. I was blown away and overwhelmed. By this point, I was more annoyed than happy. Here I went months and months without him, learning to deal with being alone and NOW he's back and all over me like white on rice. Other people are involved now, my friends are back in my life and I have plans to do things. I can't believe the outcome, but unfortunately for him, for us, I've moved on emotionally. I'm not sure what I'm feeling or how I'm feeling. I want to be happy and I'm not sure if he is genuinely wanting me or just playing since I've moved on. He told me he's sorry and that it was all planned revenge and that he was hurt so he wanted to hurt me more. He liked to watch me gravel. He said he sees me moving on and now he's ready to end this torture before he looses me for good. I just don't want to go back into this same vicious cycle because he's being very clingy and needy all over again just like he was in the beginning.....what to do, what to do.......

[Ashley]

ET
Please be careful. Your heart is YOUR sacred treasure. If he's done this before, he'll do it again....

[Jillian]

Wow, that sounds incredibly mean on his part. The coping skills you are using are good. Go back to feeling good again. It is easy for me to see what you need to do but I know it is much harder to do it. I really hope you can. I live in pain like you almost identical. Be with the people who care and nurture you. -Jillian

[Karen]

I agree with Synthia, though, I think you meant that you let a lot of things go because you were depressed not because you were *with* him and so forgot all your friends, no?
But it's true--I would not feel comfrtable with someone who "planned revenge".
It's up to you and you know the whole picture of course Enchanted.Just do take you with you whatever/wherever is next for you.

[Shygirl]

You don't need someone in your life who 'plans revenge' on you. You can do better. Best wishes...:-)

[Kora]

Enchanted Taurus, stay away from him.

Kora.

[Enchanted Taurus]

Thank you all for your advice/opinions.....I'm still thinking things over...and over...we did share my birthday together....which is TODAY! But, we're just working on being friends first, that's the foundation of any good relationship anyway. I'm not sure what I want to do here. I still care deeply for him, but like most of you, I'm confused and even frightened that this will continue later in life. I don't have room for that in mine or my daughter's life. I found out that I can really live without him and it's up to me now if I want to allow him back in. Just taking it slowly and day by day......he does seem to be making an effort to allow me to trust him slowly and him as well. I did cut all of my friends out for HIM and more so during my depression which I already told him won't happen again now that I have them back. We'll see.....we'll see.....

[CappyCat]

Well?? Did you two bump nasties tonight foe you bday as we had talked about?!?!? I want ALLLLLLLLL the juicy dirty details!! hehe

[Karen]

Well, you said it--now you know how to live *without* him--point is--you don't need him.But ...do you *want* him?:-)

No no never give up freinds for a lover.Some will fall by the wayside sure.But friends will be there when a man isn't.And even when/if your man is your best friend and lover, and you're a definite loving couple--friends are still very important.
Have faith that you can be yourself enjoy your interests and friends, *and* have a guy in your life.
I know you'll make a good decision for yourself.

[Karen]

Caps have more fun is straightforward in what she thinks huh? :-D

[Karen]

Yeah I forgot to say so,but i didn't forget it in reality--Happy Birthday to you Enchanted Taurus,all the best now and always.:-)