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ofcourse, if you got any questions about Scorpio you can ask me! I can't speak for all but you know!
Step2Realize that Scorpio can not, and will not, tolerate any form of betrayal from any person that they open their heart to. Once you are in with a scopio, you are in permanently, until you betray them. They are suspicious of everyone and everything, often even when their heart is open. It should not surprise you to find a scorpio watching every move you make, popping up out of nowhere, or snooping through your email or phone conversations. Until you have proven to them that you are trustworthy, nothing that you do or say will be taken lightly. In the begining of your relationship, a scorpio will put you through every test that they can think of.
So, what happens if they discover the skeletons in your closet, or sleuth out something you've been trying dilligently to hide from them, or you "accidently" sleep with another guy? Well, any one who has experienced the aftermath of betraying a scorpio can confidently say, "I just thank God that I am still alive". Scorpio, for the most part, will back away slowly. They will remove you from their life, but not from their mind, and rest assured that they will sit back, patiently waiting for the right moment to strike back at you. Yes, days, weeks or months will pass, and all the while you will think Scorpio is out of your life. Then suddenly you find a pipe bomb in your car, or that he's slept with your sister or best friend, or flattened your tires, or broken into your email and/or web accounts and changed all your information.
Step3So, how do you fix it? Well, if you are lucky, and he hasn't slipped into the mindset of hating you with every breath he takes, then there is still a small portion of hope.
ADMIT YOUR WRONG! Whether you are completely wrong, or not, makes no difference. However, if you have slept with someone else, this tactic will not work. Infedelity, to a scorpio, is the worst betrayal. You will just have to move on and pray that your punishment is light. But, if you haven't gone that far, then just admit you were in the wrong. If he does love you, then he will work things out with you because it is impossible for him to do things half way. If he never truly loved you to begin with, then he will not forgive you, and you will simply have to move on. However, if you apologize, even if you weren't wrong, then I can guarantee that within a week or so, he will want to have a conversation about what had happend, and he will take all (or most of) the blame onto himself. Once you have reached this point, you can count on your relationship being changed for the better.
Why?
Because Scorpio is ruled by the planet PLUTO. Pluto rules transformation. It is in scopion blood to want transformation, and if they are not getting it, then they will create fights, and other ways to MAKE IT HAPPEN. Once they accomplish the transformation, it becomes a permanent part of their personality, which then, only benefits the rest of us.
Step4So, if you want to win him back, then apologize and list off every single little thing that you did wrong. Do not, however, go to him crying and upset. He wants to see you assertive and strong (just not stronger than him), because scorpios despise weakness, and you will NEVER be able to manipulate them with tears or in any other way, without them knowing that you are doing it. It is best not to even try, because it will just make him more angry.
Be strong of heart, be flexible in mind, and be intense in loving him, and he will stick by you, and protect you forever.
Let's strip away the glamour and the smokescreens and see what's underneath. The emotional needs of the Scorpio man are utterly human: affection, acceptance, reassurance, intimacy, love, companionship. In large quantities. Scorpio men cannot bear coldness or falseness in a partner. That mask of detachment is a mask. Remember that. No Scorpio man will advertise the fact that he's hurt or feeling neglected. You have to train as a telepath.
The Scorpio man is embarrassed by the presence of so much strong emotion in himself. That's when he becomes the hard-driving, ruthless, ambitious Scorpio of the textbook descriptions. But think of what it took to get him that way. Can you ever get a Scorpio man to let down his defences? Maybe. Maybe not. In the end, it isn't up to you. It rests with the Scorpio himself.
This isn't an easy man to live with. For one thing, you won't get straight answers if you ask pertinent questions like, "Do you love me?" On the other hand, you'll get brutal scrapings of the bottom of the barrel when you least want it - like a vicious hour-long analysis of your motives in flirting with So-and-so at the party, and why it stems from your sexual inadequacies and your rejection by your parents. If you thought you had secrets from him, think again.
The Scorpio man can cut deep if he wants to, and his need to retaliate can take precedence over tolerance and compassion. He can be very destructive when he's hitting back at you for some hurt you've inflicted on him without your even realising it. Tell you that you hurt his feelings? Not likely. Often he won't apologise either.
To live with this man, you must truly respect and like him. Passionate attraction alone isn't enough. And you must understand him - how his acute perceptions isolate him, what his depth of feeling does to him in a society which rewards superficiality, what his sensitivity means in a world which doesn't value it. If you can't like him, then leave him alone, because you'll never change him, and if you ask, he'll probably do the opposite.
This man doesn't appreciate either an Amazon or a clinging limpet. He wants to be needed. On the other hand, he respects strength. If you make allowances for his pride, which won't permit him to admit a wrong or lose a battle, no lover is more devoted, compassionate, insightful or gentle. Show your pain to a Scorpio man and he'll do anything for you. Treat him with shallowness, demean him, and you have no chance of receiving anything at all except his unpleasantness, which can be unbelievably unpleasant. And don't trifle. A Scorpio man who thinks he's being mocked with can be the most difficult person in the world. His pride won't allow it.
And what about the possessiveness? Well, let's be realistic. It's not going to go away. Nor is his feeling that he has the prerogative - for flirtations, for affairs, for whatever he feels he wants or needs - while you don't, since you're his. Because there's a battleground inside him, the Scorpio man perceives life as a battleground, and you're either on his side or not. It's that simple. This man can't forgive betrayal, but it's a much deeper issue than mere sexual betrayal. When he gives his love, he bares his soul, and if you betray that, you've lost him. Forever. You can betray him even if you're sexually constant, just by treating his deepest and most passionate beliefs and convictions with contempt or dismissal.
Somewhere deep inside, the Scorpio man is a warrior fighting for the truth. He may not think in such grand metaphysical terms, and he might not welcome too much probing of his motives. But there it is. You don't turn to your comrade on the battlefield and say, "Well, actually, I think the enemy might have a point. Let's be reasonable and discuss where you're at fault."
You're for him or against him. He's prepared to offer the same passionately loyalty he expects in return. The best gift you can give him is to believe in him, and side with him when he's going through one of his "The world doesn't understand me!" phases. Scorpio trusts few people because few people are really trustworthy. Give him your true allegiance, and you'll have a genuine dyed-in-the-wool champion. For life.
Enough has been written about Scorpio's famous passion to make further descriptions redundant. These descriptions aren't strictly accurate either. Scorpios do indeed possess passion in abundance. But the passion may not necessarily be expressed in the obvious way. Sexuality, for Scorpio, is a gateway, a means of reaching a different order of experience. It isn't just a physical release.
Sex and love are bound up with a longing for some kind of transformation which no ordinary relationship can provide. Call it what you like - a mystical experience, a taste of the depths, a surrender to something greater than oneself - it has more to do with the soul than with the body. The Scorpio partner has a capacity for enduring, indestructible loyalty and love. He's capable of acts of great self-sacrifice. There's a touch of fanaticism in him, and this can permeate his relationships as well as his spiritual and political attitudes.
Scorpios don't paddle in shallow pools. They dive into depths well over their heads. Sadly, that fanaticism, unleashed in a relationship, can sometimes breed extreme suspicion and absolute possessiveness. That is, if the Scorpio is in love. If he isn't, and the magic gateway into the upper (or lower) realms isn't available, you're liable to be confronted with real emotional ice.
The Scorpio partner's biggest problem is the need to be in control. This can show in some pretty unattractive ways. Like having too much pride to apologise when he's done something really stupid. Or displaying implacable resentment and "punishing" you (with silence and an atmosphere so thick and dark you can cut it with a knife) without telling you what you've done wrong. Or finding subtle ways to test you, because he doesn't really trust you. You'll rarely get to hear just how much you mean to a Scorpio partner, but you can bet that, the less you hear, the deeper his love.
On the other hand, Scorpios have little respect for someone who won't fight back. The Scorpio partner has to win, but don't hand victory to him on a plate. Not surprisingly, crises are endemic in Scorpio's relationships. That is, if you haven't got one of those repressed Scorpios where everything seethes inside but all you see is an occasional wisp of steam. If you've got one of those, beware. Send your Scorpio to a therapist to release the pressure. It won't be much fun if it blows up at you.
What's really rare and wonderful is that the Scorpio partner has an incredible capacity for understanding you. Since he misses very little, he knows a lot about your deepest motivations very quickly. If you don't like that sort of honesty in a relationship, choose another sign. But if love means something more to you than hanging about the disco chattering, Scorpios have a lot to offer. A relationship with a Scorpio promises nothing less than transformation.
Probing is Scorpio's favourite pastime. A suspicious Scorpio isn't above scanning the telephone numbers in your little black book while you're in the bath, or checking the receipts in your wallet. Some Scorpios even become professional detectives, or forensic pathologists. But whatever games are being played, for the Scorpio partner a relationship is alive and important every hour of every day, not something which can be placed on the shelf while he gets on with something else.
Some people think possessiveness is something vaguely pathological or ideologically "wrong", and we should all go around saying, "Whatever makes you happy makes me happy." The Scorpio partner is more likely to say, "If you're happy without me, you'll pay dearly for it." To Scorpio, possessiveness is as natural as breathing. Scorpio feelings are intense. They take a long time learning to trust, but then they don't let go easily. Some Scorpios harden their hearts because of fear of humiliation, and allow only superficial encounters into their life. But that's a Scorpio on the run.
No one experiences a relationship with a Scorpio without changing. Whether it endures or ends, you'll become more self-aware and look at life more deeply. Don't expect all sweetness and light. Some very wise people have said that life is made up of both light and dark, and only a fool believes it to be otherwise. And Scorpio is no fool.
Cancer with Scorpio
Cancer and Scorpio are both water signs, and both can be extremely intense. Your sensitivity and emotionality allow you to appreciate the importance of human relationships. And you have an empathy with each other which rarely needs words to be expressed.
Both of you place a high value on constancy and both of you can be possessive, but this is not likely to cause the kind of problems it might in other relationships because you can understand each other's concerns and anxieties.
Sometimes you may overdo the "Love is never having to say you're sorry" approach, and you may need to recognise that some things have to be spoken of openly and articulated. Otherwise quiet resentment can accrue and spoil what could be a wonderfully warm and close relationship.
Objectivity and perspective are attributes you both might do well to cultivate more wholeheartedly, as the sensitivity and pride in both of you can easily overreact to imagined as well as real hurts. You have an enormous amount of insight, warmth, affection and emotional support to give each other. Make sure it's occasionally spiced with adventure and mental stimulation too.