Virgo f/ Scorp m relationship background and those 3 words : I love you....

[Barbie2520]

Hey yall!!!!

OMG am I sooo glad I found this board! Im new here and Im glad to know that I am not the only one going quietly insane now that I am dating a Scorpio.. this is my first one btw. ;-)

So yeah... here is the briefing of us.

I moved to California and met him after 6 months of us living in the same apartment building. I had seen him around tall and "sorta cute", but I never paid him a 2nd thought. So cut to when we meet. I find out that he is only BEAUTIFUL, not just cute, 21 (22 now) and I was 24 (25 now) so right away I was doing the in my mind eye roll cause I just KNEW this wouldnt ever take flight.

Boy was I wrong!! The 2nd time I hung out with him at his place with all 17 of my newest friends, (we are a pretty huge crew) I remember something he said to me. I was sitting behind him and he was looking at a magazine or something, he turns and looks at me with this puzzled look and says out loud to me: " Why me?" Im like "Huh? What do u mean?" he says "Are you sure about this? Can you handle someone that travels a lot?" I say "Um yeahhhh... I mean I DO have a life." Then he says these words:"Lets take this slow ok?"

I was stunned speechless! And let me be the first to say that making me speechless is quite the task. I didnt know how to respond to that. I was so shocked that a man had given ME the "lets take it slow" statement. I was stunned, but I knew that right in that moment, nothing would ever be the same. And I was right.

We have been "talking", cause we dont have a title or anything like that, for 6 months now and I must say they have been the most unforgettable 6 months I have ever lived. I love that we are 'taking it slow" because it has forced me to really see what he is about and allow him to really see me. He is the "MAN"around here so all the crew and many other people just adore him and for me that is sorta weird. Im like "hello! he is only human geeze!" But hell, in just the last 6 months this man has changed my world. I can honestly say having him in my life has made me a better woman.

He makes me wanna do things I have NEVER wanted to do before. Like cook, and do the damn laundry. lol He has turned me into quite the domestic diva. lmao He has taught me so much about politics, music (our fave), and he has gotten me to not be such a hot head. Now there is an impossible task! lol Being with him, I always wanna be sure that I look nice. That doesnt mean I sit around all day in my sundays best with a face full of make up on, but like making sure my eyebrows are always groomed, nails are polished and my undies match incase he wants to get frisky. ;-)

Oh, the sex... ohhhhh! lol Need I say more?! lol

Here is the thing, I have thought and re-thought about this and I cant shake it, Im falling in love with my younger scorpio. Sigh. Its a little scary cause I thought I was in love 2 times before and now that I am 25, I feel like I cant afford to be wrong again! haha But in all honesty, this all feels different. I have never felt this way for a man ever before. I have known that I have loved him for awhile now, but I refuse to put myself out there to be hurt so I refuse to say anything to him about loving him.

However, Ill make this quick, there have been a few instances where the "L" word has been tossed around. We just moved, but he didnt find a place before he had to leave the other apt so he moved in temp with me and my roomies one of which is his female cousin....
Anyway, obviously we share a room and one day we were playin and i locked him out. He came poundin on the door sayin stuff like "How you gonna lock me outta MY room?! You dont live here lady!" lol just being crazy. So, I come to the door without opening it and say "Now is that the way we get things done around here? No. You are supposed to say 'Baby you are beautiful please open the door." Now, remember what it was that I REALLY said ok?

Well as I am in the middle of saying that, I hear him run away from the door and then I hear my roomies say "Damn what did she say??" they were all acting like I had just said something insane! So finally one of my roomies comes to the door and says "A, let me in!!!" shes comes in and her eyes are huge! Im like "What!?" She goes "What did u say to him just now?" I am making every confused face I can think of. lol I ask her "why? what did he think I said?' She goes "Girl, he ran away from the door, past us and into the kitchen! I asked him what you said he said 'She said say "I love you"!" uhhhhhh No i didnt!!! hahahah

So I come out of the room and join those 3 in the living room... he is standing there lookin at me as I sit down and I got lost in those eyes of his right away. But I take that moment to say "Yeah I Definitely didnt say THAT!". Awww you should have seen his face.. then he answers a simple "I know." But he seemed sad about it kinda. OMG. If the man only knew how long I have wanted to tell him i love him.

So I guess my question is, when is a good time to tell him how I am feeling. After that whole "take it slow" talk, we havent spoken about our "relationship" at all. We just take it day by day. And i like it like that. But damn I am falling in love with him and I am sick of having to act all reserved like Im not head over heels ova here!! He is currently back in his hometown for the holidays and he has been gone for almost 3 months now. We speak all the time except for those "Scorpio days off" which is what we are in right now.. havent spoken in 5 days. Im gettin a lil antysy. I am going near where he lives for New Years and I hope to see him while Im there... but Im afraid cause you know with the holidays people tend to get romantic, well I do atleast, and I dont wanna get caught up in the hoopla. But yall I really wanna tell him. I honestly wanna wait till it has been a year, June 2009, but I swear Ill burst by then!

There is sooo much more to this story but I dont wanna bore ya! So If you have read this far... please tell me what I should do. Wait? Or tell him. If I tell him, HOW do I tell him? Grrr. Have any of you been here before??? What did u do? Who said it first?

Oh and one more thing, he wrote a song for me. He is an amazing musical talent, yes he is a rapper but not like those corner street rappers without a chance in hell to make it. lol And in the song, he mentions a lot about me without really saying that its me. I never led on that I knew the song is about me, but he mentions loving me in every chorus of the song. I love that song so much, for Scorp men, do they just go around droppin the L word if they dont mean it??? HELP!!!!


Thanks in advance and I cant wait to get to know all of you!

~A

[Love]

sounds like ur Virgo F/ Scorp M situation is better than mines. lol

[Mary Monroe]

Okay, sweety , pump the brakes..... let him say it first . Been there done that , wept into the damn tee shirt many many times. And boy is the "I know" a lot of fun , I know (lol) . Ya don't have to take my advice, hell I screwed the pooch with mine completely I think(see previous crazy girl sappy posts), but sometimes a song is just that, a song. He may feel it deep down, but when he is comfortable he will tell ya. I did the "day to day" and it was a giant kick in the proverbial sack at the time (I am a Cancer and make no bones about the facts that I need domestic stability) though the whole thing set the bar much higher for me in terms of expectations from relationships. Just write some poetry and take the ride babe, ironically you both probably think the other is in control here, when neither one is :) aah l'amour, tu es amusant !

[Little One]

Let him say it first. My rational behind it is:
1) He's the man... better if he says it so it doesn't scare him off as easily as if you did.

2) He's a Scorpio.. needs to be in control of the situation. At least let him think he is ;-)