Scorpio and intimacy!

[Fleursdumal]

The "I" word is almost everywhere the "S" word is. They are inseparable! Scorpios crave intimacy. My question is: how would you, sexy Scorps, describe intimacy? Which is the kind of intimacy you need to have with your lovers...and I know it's beyond sex...so that's why I'm asking. And if it's about sex, don't be bashful ;) Looking forward to your replies. Indulge me, please!

[suziebling]

Typical!!! No comments from those masters of secrecy and brick walls....

[Evie dee]

True dat!

[got2be2008]

scorp sun, taurus moon and rising:
i would say it is a connection on a different level, that only some signs can achieve (cancer i would say is one, pisces maybe, of course scorp)
it is finding out who someone truly is and still liking them after that, but that person must be able to understand you on an deep emotial level.
sex is used to captivate the person to allow time for emotial connections to form. If anyone is looking to bag a scorp stare deep in there eyes and feel what they are thinking.

[Ashley]

I think what youre missing is that we want you OUT of our intimate world. If you get in, it pisses us off, and makes us feel more vulnerable than we are comfortable. Sex, sex works because its a physical expression of intimacy without having to take you directly to that place...

[Fleursdumal]

I do not ever want in uninvited...:))) Thx for the insight.

[Scorpio sun Virgo moon]

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[Mariah21]

What scorpios want Intimacy lol..maybe with themselves only!

[suziebling]

very true..... they are happy ..so leave them be in their lonliness.

[GangtaofLove]

Mariah, Idk if thats about intimacy. I think they are known for wanting intimacy.
For me its about a balance between getting to know the person and having enough freedom so as not to loose myself. I don't need someone crawling into my veins and prying into my private world but just being able to share my private world in a non intrusive/ overbearing way. Sound accurate?
I'm all about intimacy but it has to be under my terms because I'm too private to open up. But I don't just enter relationships expecting the other person to nurse me into sharing myself with them (theyre not my mother) I just stop them when theyre getting too close and try to reflect on it on my own. I guess thats not very positive but it gives me peace of mind and lets me feel like I can be myself and be free while I'm next to someone else regardless of the relationship (even with parents, siblings, teachers, friends) I'm private yet extremely open. I can't open on command. Isn't this just human nature I'm describing?
I mean look at all the signs theyre all private and play a game of pull and release with everyone. Most are more private than scorpio. Aquarius just put up a wall you don't even know they have feelings. Leo put up a wall you think theyre the toughest strongest thing that can't break. Aries are sort of similar very tough. Libra seems like they don't even understand feelings but they do. Gemini are just beyond feelings maybe they'll read about them in a book and intellectualize the process. Sagittarius are so distant they don't even seem human when it comes to feelings. Cancer are overly feeling it doesn't seem like theyre even responding to you just to themselves. Pisces use feelings to get people to work with them I don't know what that has to do with feelings. Virgo seem to appreciate the asthetic of emotions and relationships. Taurus just want to be confirmed in the relationship. Capricorn I don't even understand. So thats that were all human, we have issues with intimacy, we all censor ourselves, are insecure, don't know if we should be ourselves or just act in order to fall in love, end up with the wrong people, keep blaming them instead of ourselves. Thats people for you. I don't know what scorpios have to do with this. Maybe scorpios just make too much of a big deal out of everything, overanalyze, expect too much, and end up hurting themselves more than anyone else can. And theyre scared to let go and fall. They want to be strong, being strong is not opening up completley sometimes, because then you loose your posture. Its survival, thats just another way to survive. Just because someone wants to get to know you doesn't mean they need to know all of you. Its healthy to keep some of you to yourself because you govern your own world and if you want to keep certain things private than go for it. Long rant...

[virgo/scorp/cap]

I love your definitions! I think you have hit on each one correctly! I know someone from each sign who fits your descriptions completely. And I can't help but smile, my scorpio asked me last night if I would have him even in his emotionally unstable self? My virgo self told him that I absolutely love how emotional he is and can weather it beside him. :-)

[Virya]

Very interesting.

So just out of curiosity- Do you think...
Since Scorpios want things on their own terms... when they talk about sex with someone- like they ask questions after questions and expect an answer, but when u ask them back they don't answer back- they avoid questions- is that because they want it on their own terms? or other reasons... such as control or hidden motives?

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[wonderlv]

oh dear... this is such a complicated matter that i don't think anyone will ever have the answer! scorpios and their intimacy and privacy levels...

i'm a lioness and have ( or better had? since i don't know if we are still together cause she asked to have time away...) a close friendship with a scorpioness...

From the very start i knew she craved for intimacy, i knew this was the key to her heart, the only way there would ever be a chance of us being together...wanted to know my deep desires and secrets (sounds familiar to any scorpios? lol)... so i gave her that, i opened up to her like almost to no-one else and she knows that... she told me that i would never understand how much she felt for me or how she felt a oneness with me... but i do cause that's how i feel too.. she said she opened up to me too about her feelings (but not about her life since i found that she's lied to me about important things concerning her, when i told her, she just back off, gave a few explanations but not really telling me what's the truth about the lies she told me... so i'm here after 3 weeks, still waiting...)... so, it's confusing to me...

she asked for intimacy and i gave her intimacy, but what about scorpio's intimacy to others??.. they ask for deep feelings and for connection... which we did have and it's been amazing, we both felt like we have found our soulmate. Do you think she might got scared by the depth of our feelings? but that's what she's been looking for.. why deny it? and yes, she's mentioned that there are moments in love that she wants to possess you...look deeply into each other's eyes, feel the possession but also the connection... but i sense that she also wants to be possessed, scorpionessess need mates who are tender and loving but strong as personalities and passionate too.

i feel that i gave her so many things, i've shown my love in so many ways... and she acknoledges that and that's why she was with me... but i really don't know what she's currently thinking... does she need her time away to think of her feelings for me? to think if she will tell me the truth about her lies to me and her life? she's had rough times in her life and said that it's very difficult for her to trust others, she needs time to trust someone and needs to do it on her own pace... fine, but how long will that take? she also told me that she was getting "too involved", like lost in our relationship, does this mean that our intimacy and bond scared her? but that's what she wants and needs! why should a person deny what makes them happy?? can a scorpio person please explain this to me?!?!

and why do scorpios retreat in their cave and not discuss things (at least to some level) so as to resolve the issues... when u love someone you can't leave them sizzling outside your cave and expect them to wait for you forever... you know, scorpios' intentions might be misenterpreted... for instance with my scorpio friend and her current stance, i don't know what she's feeling, the fact that she doesn't explain to me makes me feel that she does not love me really... scorpios seem to be more concerned about their own feelings and not so much about how the other person might be feeling or if he/she is fine... this is not fair and not healthy for any relationship...but what is fair in life a scorpio will think eh, so i'm sure now that any scorpio reading this is smiling!

scorpios i know you crave to be forever desired and truly loved for what you are... and when we do that and you sense it, you just back off.... why, can someone please explain?! cause all other signs are going crazy about their little scorpios, lol!

i know that she will not tell me everything about herself (and i understand that) despite the fact that i have opened up about me.. that's leos.. "we are what you see" and maybe this scares the hell out of scorpios who are on the opposite side... but scorpios, please do not misunderstand us! we don't mean bad nor we are lieing to you, we just need to express what we feel... when we love, we love with passion, zest, loyalty and fierce warmth... and omg when we fall for scorpios, double the emotions i said before! it's such an intense but deep relationship... But we leos also need our mate to express their love towards us... cause otherwise we feel that we are not loved, and that makes us unhappy, cold and is not in favour of the relationship cause we stop giving...this causes misunderstanding... how can that be resolved then, any suggestions?
remember that when u show your love towards leos, that will only inflame their love for you, you will be rewarded with your love for leos cause they will love you back so strongly and will give their everything to you..

scorpios are difficult to understand... one day they are hot as lava and so sweet and enthousiastic.. and the next day they can be cold and rough as ice... would scorpios please explain this to us?! and i think that this happens with the people that you feel most intimate with, am i right? why do you keep testing your mates and even hurting them, when u know how much they love you...? do you need to create drama and hurt others out of nothing?

so now... i'm waiting for her, our friendship started 3 months ago (not long time but we both agreed that we felt amazed by how quickly we clicked with each other and felt so intimate) and now it's been 3 weeks of her giving me the silence treatment... not sure how long i can wait cause i don't know what she's thinking or feeling during this time, any ideas guys?? how long should i wait and is it worth it... she said she loved me truly but her distance, confusing behaviour and lie make me wonder... does she need her time away to think of her feelings for me? does she need time away to think if she will tell me the truth about her lies to me and her life? (i need to know the truth about her personality and life, cause after i found out some things about her, i'm not sure now who she is... so i'm not sure whom i fell for....and that's not healthy if we want to be together again) or she doesn't love me any more..?

any feedback would be greatly appreciated! cheers