Taurus - taking it slow or just friendship ?

[Filomena]

That is my old story....Now turn to page 8 - new Taurus, new Santa Barbara ! ))))

I fall for this sexy smart Taurus guy at work. He seems to like me too, I secretely think he is in love )))), is eying me from every corner passionately, speaking mainly with me, everybody noticed our closeness BUT all this .... since...July....we went strolling in our district several times and to lunches and he was writing me on the Net when was in business trip - I feel that we are made for each other, so much fun with him and soooooo sexy ))))....In Sep/October he got extremely possessive, even mean and now does not allow me to talk to other guys....even that we don't have a proper relationship yet....He likes the idea that I belong to him. He said he is very conservative in a relationship and does not allow woman to be independent.....This is all weird because he actually never asked me out for a date....he always gets out of the office with me as if by chance....he touched my hands several times but....we still don't go out as normal couple....Can Taurus hesitate for such a long time ??? And I know he is single....I am kind of tortured.....

[Filomena]

GreatBull, what's the point ? Did you read my last post, what happened during out last dinner ? We are not even talking anymore....

[tracy]

Hi Filomena, I just broke up with a Taurus, & we met in 94 till end of 97,then 11 yrs later for 4 mnths, well I never saw any side of being possessive or being jealous or being cheap. he was generous,funny, sarcastic, a very hard worker, loves home cooked meals, affectionate,old fashioned to a degree,but his dark side he was a liar, a mental coward, deceiving,cold, will ignore you & block u out like u don't exist, play mind games, never comes 100% clean with u & when it comes to serious situations, he'd bail out & run away.He is 44, but that's my experience with a Taurus not speaking for all. My name is Tracy & my discussion on this forum is called "strange & unbearable Taurus" u may want to read it. Good luck!

[tracy]

oh & when things start getting rough no matter how much I told him about my feelings he didn't care. it's like they can hurt your feelings but u can't hurt theirs. I don't think i'll ever date a Taurus again, they're a weird & complex sign, i'm a Leo & we have big hearts, but with Taurus when difficult situations arise it's like they don't have a heart anymore.

[tracy]

1 more thing LOL!! selfish, self- absorbed,self-centered,stuck in a work rut, maybe mental rut also.

[Filomena]

Hi everybody !! 3 months passed ))) For those who followed my story, we have re-started talking to each other in Feb, now chat on the net 3 times a week. He is very tender with me, still alone, but never asked me out again....I prefer to keep it like that, I think this guy is too immature for me.
Though, I met another guy beg March (guess what, another Taurus, haha.....is it karmic?) . We clicked immediately (at a party), he is very tender and caring, though masculine and playful, exactly what I need. Then I was ill and we chatted on the net every day, then I was out of town, next week he invited me to lunch, but it didn't happen for technical reasons. Then....there was a pause, he was ill )))))))))))) Then he finally invited me to dinner, which was great and a lot of fun....We kept sending funny sms to each other, now he is in Tokyo for two weeks, we will see....He is taking it slowly, but I see there is an interest.

[Itty]

Okay I'm a Taurus female an I've dated a Taurus Male. Um yeah stay away if you don't want to be his possesion.

[Filomena]

Sara, I have no problem with possessiveness, but he should love me in return. My previous relationship (discussed above, in Dec - Jan) - was all possessiveness but no feelings. That's normal for Taurus as well I guess. I will try to avoid the trap this time. )

[tracy]

Hi Filomena take it slow,very slow to find out where he's coming from, now I heard of possessiveness in Taurus men but I never experienced that trait from my now ex Taurus he was not jealous he was trusting & laid back.Now Tauruses are definitely known to hide their feelings & emotions so if my ex was jealous I never knew it.Now Taurus men can be extremely charming & everything but don't let their charm naw at your feelings because if you get hooked too fast including them, they'll start getting confused & confusing.That's when their head games will start & they'll do a 360 on you, some quick.... some slow. So just be patient,careful & take your time.

[Filomena]

Right, I decided not to contact any of them any more, I wait for them to make a move. And I won't respond immediately. Let's see who really needs me )

[Filomena]

Ah, Tracy BTW, I think you meant my old flame (coz you were talking about possessiveness)....it's over, we just chat on the internet. I met another Taurus, it's on page 8 )

[Sugar]

Tracy, I have found out that Taurus men can be big liars. Why do you think that they play such mind games. What are they getting out of playing with womens hearts. I am seeing a Taurus and I like him a lot but I think he lies so much. He claims that he is not seeing any other women but I think in my heart of hearts that he is. I am just about to call it quits with this guy, as much as I like him, I refuse to be a fool. He is 35 and I am 26, will they ever grow up. Then I look back and ask myself, are these men really worth it. Why are us women putting ourselves through so much hell over these men. The hell with that shit, I'm worth more than that.

[BrounSista]

Well that's the downside of a taurus male...the only downside! Everything else is BLISS!