Taurus - taking it slow or just friendship ?

[Filomena]

That is my old story....Now turn to page 8 - new Taurus, new Santa Barbara ! ))))

I fall for this sexy smart Taurus guy at work. He seems to like me too, I secretely think he is in love )))), is eying me from every corner passionately, speaking mainly with me, everybody noticed our closeness BUT all this .... since...July....we went strolling in our district several times and to lunches and he was writing me on the Net when was in business trip - I feel that we are made for each other, so much fun with him and soooooo sexy ))))....In Sep/October he got extremely possessive, even mean and now does not allow me to talk to other guys....even that we don't have a proper relationship yet....He likes the idea that I belong to him. He said he is very conservative in a relationship and does not allow woman to be independent.....This is all weird because he actually never asked me out for a date....he always gets out of the office with me as if by chance....he touched my hands several times but....we still don't go out as normal couple....Can Taurus hesitate for such a long time ??? And I know he is single....I am kind of tortured.....

[Mariah21]

Am I the only one here that thinks this guy may already be in a relationship. What guy is that possesive to call yo his, but out of work cant make time?
He calls you for a 3 hour date on his terms (when he can get away) but cant make future plans or is upset or makes excuses,when you ask him out , says his phones on vibrate at night hmmmm..doesnt sound right to me.

[Filomena]

Mariah, I know for sure that he doesn't see anyone and this since at least a year. There is obviously a problem between us, but I think it's rather his internal doubts about himself. He is younger than me and probably is not ready for the relationship or smth. I don't know what's wrong with him, but he seemed so much in love recently and now we haven't seen each other for 10 days, only sms / internet....I haven't contacted him since our last conversation on Saturday, when he was jealous.

[Carmen]

After reading the comments on this post over and over I cant help but continue to see signs that this guy is just holding back out of his own insecurities and the fact that you are way too independent to be with him. While I am sure he may be quite a nice guy, like steamy said above, he seems extremely possessive and controlling. Even so, I dont understand why he is not pursuing you even more! If you told him that you are "going out" and he saw you talking to another guy AND he expressed that he was somewhat jealous, why is he not trying to pursue you and make more of a mark on you so you can be his? When Taurus wants something, they go for it! Even if he has half an hour of free time, he should be offering to make some of this time for you just so that he can make the best impression. This guy is taking a very laid back approach and it just wont cut it! I trust that you will make the best decision and its good that you are beginning to step back.

[Filomena]

Thanks Carmen. All this makes me suffer, as I didn't expect our story to end like this. I will try to talk to him during the weekend. I hope he will be honest with me. It's incredibly sad, especially that I have no understanding of what happened, we spent such a wonderful evening, and it's a romance which lasted for quite a long time....how could he change his mind so quickly ??????

[Carmen]

I dont think its a matter of him changing his mind but he isn't pursuing and thats whats confusing. It could be a number of things ranging from something he is dealing with internally to possibly something that he sees about you that doesnt fit in with his controlling and possessive nature. Sometimes men like this are more eager to pursue a woman who is more dependent. While I do not doubt that is attracted to you very much, he may have some other factors that are causing him to act differently now.

[Sarah]

He's a taurus. We don't know his other signs but we do know they are slow to commit. It's also normal for them to think that once they flirt a little bit, the rest is left up to the woman.

[Filomena]

I wrote to him today You disappeared....anything happened ?, he said Everything is fine, I haven't disappeared...he does not worry about the fact we don't see each other....basically, I will talk to him tomorrow. We need to set this straight. Should I talk about my feelings ?

[Sarah]

Not in an aggressive way, no. If the time is right, you can express how you feel. I just wouldn't push anything. I know it's frustrating. If you are really giving up on this, I would see him, tell him how you feel. If he doesn't give a response, or at least not a positive one, then let it go. At least you know you were honest and told him how you feel instead of playing these games. Honestly is the best policy or so they say. Somehow I think he will appreciate that.

[Filomena]

Update : still didn't see him....we chatted yesterday, apparently he is leaving his job....and he didn't say it but I think he is forced. He wants to go to States for study. That leaves nothing for me....He said Let's not torture our fingers, I will tell you everything when we meet, I said Ok, but my chances to see you are apparently very small ! ))) He said Your calculus is wrong - it's 50/50...either we meet or we don't. )))
I got mad and wrote him that he is playing wih my feelings bla bla bla....
That gives an impression that he tells me to leave him alone. Very nice, after all affection we had....That's a Taurus. Playing with feelings.

[Tiffany]

I have a similiar work situation. For the last couple months I have been chatting with this Taurus guy I work with that has begun to flourish into a crush. I actually have recently come out of an 8 year relationship...so I am having fun with this. But, now I am finding myself looking forward to our talks and miss them if we don't work together or he doesn't come by my desk. I have started wondering does he talk to all the girls the same way in my department when I am not in? I am by nature a very jealous person but I have to remember we are still friends. Don't want to come off looking crazy. I have never fallen for a Taurus before and really like his mysteriousness and his intelligence. Lately he will just drop by and give me something. First it was a beverage. He came over, didn't say anything, dropped it off then walked away. I thought it was sweet and bizarre. Then he ordered food to be picked up at my desk (I work in reception) told me to leave the delivery person a small tip (which i thought was a bit cheap) then when the food came he told me to have the rest of the change. Again sweet but bizarre. Then today he barely said a word to me when passing by my desk and did not come over for his usual long chats. But, then as I was leaving he was suddenly in the happy, chatty mood that I am used to. I am soo confused at this behaviour. I am not really sure how to approach it to be honest but at the same time like the challenge of trying to figure out what is really going on. Does anyone think he likes me or am I crazy?


Just a few tid bits about my chart: Sun in Aries, Moon in Libra, Venus in Taurus, Mars in Aries, Mercury in Aries, Jupiter in Libra, Saturn in Libra, Neptune in Sagittarious, Pluto in Libra and Leo in Ascendent.

[Filomena]

Well, it's all very new and fresh, don't be confused. Remember that the guy is a work and they are workaholics....Just continue to be sweet and make him a small gift, that really captures their attention. Try to figure out whether it's just a flirt or he is really paying attention.

[BabyTaurus]

i've had a few libra's after me, but i feel like i am more into possessing them as opposed to having an intimate relationship with them. i don't ever get into anythin but thats just how i FEEL but i'm attracted to them since we both sensual beings.

i feel they are too out going and free spirited for me, which isn't a bad thing just isn't my type. i love people who don't go out all the time, make me feel secure and know what they want in life and like being at home.

i think this taurus might just be playing a lil bit of a game before he makes up his mind, thats what i used to do.. i take ages to make up my mind about someone but the good thing is, once i do.. its for ages.