Taurus - taking it slow or just friendship ?

[Filomena]

That is my old story....Now turn to page 8 - new Taurus, new Santa Barbara ! ))))

I fall for this sexy smart Taurus guy at work. He seems to like me too, I secretely think he is in love )))), is eying me from every corner passionately, speaking mainly with me, everybody noticed our closeness BUT all this .... since...July....we went strolling in our district several times and to lunches and he was writing me on the Net when was in business trip - I feel that we are made for each other, so much fun with him and soooooo sexy ))))....In Sep/October he got extremely possessive, even mean and now does not allow me to talk to other guys....even that we don't have a proper relationship yet....He likes the idea that I belong to him. He said he is very conservative in a relationship and does not allow woman to be independent.....This is all weird because he actually never asked me out for a date....he always gets out of the office with me as if by chance....he touched my hands several times but....we still don't go out as normal couple....Can Taurus hesitate for such a long time ??? And I know he is single....I am kind of tortured.....

[Filomena]

WTF.....no news from him since Wednesday. I decided to step aside. Will not contact him ever again.

[JacQueuf]

oh yes they CAN hesitate a looooooong time. its absurd. can u believe that they actually like a challenge in dating? ugh.


He said he is very conservative in a relationship and does not allow woman to be independent
sounds to me like a wfe beater. ur seriously better off.

[Filomena]

I think it's the only thing I can do right now. Make him worry that he loses me. Moreover, he made understand his colleagues that we go out. (my former colleagues actually). Which is not true. I don't call it dating. I call it mindf.king.

[Sarah]

Haha, I dont think that means he's a wife beater. He just likes to be the 'bread winner' and the supporter. Taurus men love to take care of their woman, and if they are too independent, the taurus guy feels like he can bring nothing to the relationship.

[JacQueuf]

ummm.... I <3 your cheekbones. : )

[Filomena]

ummm.....I like your engine )))))))))))))

[Filomena]

Steamy guy, what do ya think about my mess ? Why would a guy who chased me for several months now behave like that ????

[JacQueuf]

sorry I can't click 'reply' but umm..


I don't call it dating. I call it mindf.king.

LMAOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

not to worry, keep being your charming Libra self and his stubborn a$$ will come around. they like challenges and a taurus loves nothing more than being the first t having something 'exclusive' that no one else has. a libra can pull this off big time. whether faking or not.

one question.. can u deal with the possesiveness? ponder it before moving forward. the flirty side of libra will drive Taurus mad if once its a done deal. : /

[Carmen]

Good, dont contact him believe me it will make him come back sooner or later. One thing my father used to harp on when him and my mother were together was that he was so proud of that fact that he got such a "rare gem" as his wife. My father grew up with lots of women throwing theirselves at him but my mother was actually the one who never pursued, was smarter, prettier, more sophisticated than the rest, and I am not saying it was done all over night (Taurus is SLOWWWW) but my father did pursue her and ended up marrying her.

You're a libra, you are beautiful, romantic, unique on top of loads of other great qualities I am sure you possess that I am not aware about. Even though I do like taurus to an extent, I am not sure if you want to deal with this guy..he seems like he is using the fact that you are interested to his advantage and hes taking it for granted. How dare he tell other people that you are together (probably to show some kind of possessiveness, saying "shes mine, back off") and then not shower with you the attention that you so deserve. Let him be, let him come to you, and put your foot down. If he has all these tendencies, then you should be getting something in return. If he wants to be possessive and somewhat controlling, and you dont mind that, then tell him you need certain things out of the relationship as well. If he is not willing to oblige, then his loss.

[Filomena]

Right....he was online today, saw me chatting with another guy (beautiful body !!!! )) - ok, he immediately wrote to me with an angry tone... he was unhappy about it and jealous....then we spoke for some time, he said he is not doing much, work - home, but going out with friends tonight, as an exception.....he said I am beautiful and no wonder guys are running around me....I said I am going out too...he said Good.....and then I said If anything call me later, we can probably meet....He said OK (politeness, I am sure)........well. this is crazy, he apparently does not want to see me....I don't get it....WTF....

[JacQueuf]

hahaha I love it carmen!

her comment is so dead on! the "rare gem" thing and even wat she suggested. I totally agree. im not sure if you'd wanna deal with his possesiveness on a regular basis.

I have a best friend who just happens to be a Libra, and I've had to realize that no matter what I say, once her mind is made up theres basically absolutely nothing in the world that I can say to persuade her sooo.. I result to just giving useful tips lol. in this case, everything should come so natural to you that I don't even know what to say. you're both ruled by venus and a fancy libra can dance circles around a sitting duck (or bull) and have him under your spell soon enough.

I bring up the controlling again because that might cause friction.. this one sounds like an extreme taurus. my step sister is a taurus and nothing is quite the same as her, other than a rock. a cool trick is to just pretend u don't need em. taurus likes to provide and if ur in need n they feel their services aren't really received well they go bonkers! dont do it to an extreme though, im scared he'll turn into a murderer with his taurean ways.

remember if u mess with the bull.. you DO get the horns. even if the poke only tickles at first they'll continue until they're absolutely sure they broke ur rib.

so well... you guys both like to eat. u have that in common... bring cool treats for everyone at work that you baked and give him a "special" one.. even if it looks the same as the rest say u made his specially for him and give him a wink (taurus' are stupid for things like that lol) the way to their heart is through their stomachs and fancy gifts.

no gifts for him yet though.

[Filomena]

Steamy, you probably didn't read the thread and don't know that we don't have a proper relationship and the main problem is that he likes to think that I am HIS but without actually going out with me.....last time we saw each other is 8 days ago and that does not bother him. And no xxx. )))) I should try to forget him.