Taurus MEN!! Ok, so now I'm really lost...?

[Cancergurl]

Its been a very hard 4 1/2 months. If you read my discussion b4, u know that i'm head over heels for this Bull, but was getting alot of negative responses from him after our 2 month affair lead to a pregers scare! So, wait, now it gets good...

He and I had so many good/bad/ugly/confusing convos these past months. It was very hard at first even trying to forget he existed...we werent hanging around each other, and he lives sooo far it was just easier to make that an excuse not to show up at his doorstep.
I did just that today!!
Showed up with flowers and a "I'm sorry" ballon stuck dead center in the daisey pot~

So, how'd he react....just as I wanted him to!

Not only did my lil neice have the courage to go to his door and knock, but then he followed her back to my car (flowers in hand) and asked me to step out the car. I was sooooo nervous, heart beating thru my chest. I got out, he instantly hugged me and apologized for his negative behavior. He also stood there with me for about 10 mins just chatting it up ;) I was so happy, the hug felt great, and he was making sure he felt every curve of my body! After chatting a bit (it was about 95 degrees UGH!)he proceeded to hug me again goodbye-this time i made sure to kiss his neck and rub/massage it a lil in the back ( his erogenous zone!!) MAN!! 10 mins after leaving him, i got texted about 10 times!! He was telling me how great i looked, how sexy i was, how he wish i didnt leave....LOL
I'm on cloud 9 ( right now)......but.....im letting him lead all convos and actions! Anytime I ever initiated or asked, I never got what i wanted him to do...its SO ON people~

If a Bull takes u back, what do u do!!?HELP!!?


*****UPDATE UPDATE UPDATE****7/18/09

Sooooo, after Tuesday this week, THURSDAY was a fantasty day come true.not only did he text me earlier than his normal wake up time (9am) but we proceeded to text, IM, and Webcam w/mic for hours!! Even during webcam, he was in his room showing off all his Coach accesorries, cologne & movies to me-Sooooooo cute!! Then he professed "even thru allllllll the BS you sent me thru, I love u and I think ur an Awesome person".

guys!! PEOPLE-OMG.....He's a Taurus!! BUT, do you think he really loves me? I DO!!!

B/C he asked me to come back to his side of town (65 miles from me)!! OMG, I flew out there, we spent the night together in his fav hotel...WE DID NOT HAVE SEX-we merely cuddled, laughed, joked, talked, watch tv, and stayed cuddled thru the night till the next day afternoon...then went to pick up a quick bite to eat...HE PAID FOR IT-sooooooo, now what? I texted him when I made it home...he replied, I havent said anything, called, texted, or emailed.....and I wont till he initiates contact again!!

He did however,make it a point to tell me he'd be in my area Sunday...I mean litterally around the corner from me...he knows where I live....should I wait to see what he does Sunday?? Should I call just to say Hi Sunday? Or should I leave it alone....?Hmmmmmmm-it can go anyway now... ;)
But honestly, as much as I wanted sex, laying in his arms, feeling him, smelling him, kissing him, sleeping with him....I was SOOOOOOOO content~

[Bleekindigo]

Hi CoCo! Hi Cancer!

Coco,

Just because a woman cannot follow her own advice, does not mean that another cannot take it into consideration and make it work (or not) for herself. Right? And...perhaps many of the women who have posted previously about "chasing a guy" or "waiting on them to grow up" learned from the experience. Hence, the ability to enlighten another.

I do agree with you when you say that "Every situation is different" and that Cancer should just do her.

Cancer, be careful. Try not to make the mistake of allowing his action or inaction to dictate your every action where he is concerned. Do not allow yourself to become a puppet to his whims.

Should a situation so uncertain require so much thought?

Coco, long distance relationships work for some folks. Like you said, "Every situation is different".

[Cancergurl]

Thanks Bleek....tho i agree with CoCo, i see ur points too. Every situation has its own path to and from here. I only wish he'd talk to me more about things. I guess knowing how inactive Bull men can be, the simple fact that he wanted me to cuddle with him, and not have sex was deep for me...he wants to take his time and get to know me better..Im allll for it....if it means hanging out and living life like he doesnt exist till he decides to show his face, then so be it.

[jjjohanna]

Very good advice, but personally I do not believe in playing games a la that capricorn chick friend of sunnyskie (although Im cappy myself). Maybe she had much Aqua influence that helped her to stay detached (aqua venus for example). I have Cancer AC and many scorpio planets, so I could no way get up and leave my Taurus after sex cos I wanted to be close to him and sleep with him!

I can understand the sexual obsession part... I was (and partially still am) sexually obsessed with my ex Taurus. I would sleep with him right away if he was in front of me lol. The other partners were not even one fraction of what he was. Im dating an Aries now, but we have not even kissed (we know each other since April), not speaking of sex. He is going at a very slow pace. It seems kind of weird.

I dont think that FWB can spoil all your chances with a Taurus... I had an 8 month FWB relship with a Taurus, but I didn t have enough patience to wait him out. Maybe Cancergirl is the right one. If she is not, she will soon find it out herself. And this Taurus gal will take her one step closer to the right guy.

good luck

[Sunniskye]

Actually my Cappie friend has Venus in Scorpio BUT her Moon is in Aqua!! My jaw dropped open when I read that JJJohanna! So you are probably right about that. I have also noticed that she behaves that way ONLY when she is TRULY feeling a guy. When she starts being all mean and stuff I look at her and be like "Oh, God you must be starting to like _____?" xD

My grandmother once told me, concerning other people's advice: Take the meat and spit out the bones. If I believe experience is a good teacher, then I also believe it doesn't ALWAYS have to be MY experience. Granted I agree with CoCo that every situation is different. Just as we are all different in every intereaction that we have with different people. Each person brings a new element into our lives. When Bleek said:

Just because a woman cannot follow her own advice, does not mean that another cannot take it into consideration and make it work (or not) for herself. Right? And...perhaps many of the women who have posted previously about "chasing a guy" or "waiting on them to grow up" learned from the experience. Hence, the ability to enlighten another.

I was also like Wow, that's exactly how I was feeling when I read CoCo's original statement. Any thing that I post is about trying to help someone. I have grown from the advice on here. And if I am able to give some insight then I am glad. Every statement a person has said does not apply to me, but EVERY snippet has been thought provoking. And to me that is what this is about. Life doesn't come with a handbook. And NO ONE is going to get it right ALL the time.

Cancergurl,
You have to take all of this in and mesh it with your own thoughts, your own morals, your own desires, your own needs and then come up with YOUR formula. All I was trying to say really was be careful. You have a lot to consider. CoCo brought other good points which led to me noticing other things maybe left unsaid. Why is it that you have to go to a hotel room when you go to his side of town? If this was a one time thing then okay, wait and let him bring you into his world. You have already indicated that he has a free pass into yours. Sunday I know he will be around the corner, and I bet he will be waiting for my call...checking on him...or that "hey, come by here" text-AINT GONNA HAPPEN!! Which means you have played your cards, now wait and see what he is going to do. My advice would be different if you had NOT shown your interest or invested so much energy. But you have so now see what you get in return. I also wonder if you guys were in a relationship from the jump? If it was FWB then you guys had the pregnancy scare and he totally stopped even sleeping with you, then that concerns me b/c thats what the arrangment was about in the first place Sex. if that indeed was the case. I just want you to let him reveal himself to you cause you have done so much already. Is it possible that he has a situation in the town where he lives?

Cancergurl, please know that anything I say is just to look out for you. True I made some mistakes and I got hurt. True I played the fool and I chased a guy. But that was my lesson. I am simply trying to save you some disappointment, if that is possible.

Only you can tell when it is right for you. Just take my words and ANYbody else's with a grain of salt. Use it to your advantage.

Wishing you love
Sunni

[CoCo]

Actually whenI spoke about the members chasing a guy and/or waiting on them to grow up I was referring to the ones who are still posting about the same situations just days ago and are here giving Cancer advice when their situation isnt resolved. All this 'think with your heart' and 'dont chase him' (paraphrasing here) just sounds good, but we do what we want when we want and who want to do it with. Alls I want Cancer to know is you have to do you. I know we are all here to offer our advice with past experiences, yes, but I guess one or two posters in particular really get my goat (lol) with their almost whimsical psychiatric advice telling Cancer what path to take when they are on the complete wrong path themselves.

I completely agree with 'should a situation so uncertain require so much though?' Cancer should think about that.

Yes long distance can work, but only if the people are committed to seeing EACH OTHER. Not getting a hotel room here and there and telling me he's gonna be visiting someone near me... but not ME in particular. These were the flags that let me know maybe this was wierd.

Cancer, just have fun is all I can say. Bulls are slow and stubborn and I couldnt imagine obsessing over one who was long distance.

[Cancergurl]

OK- the backstory is he lives with Mom and Pop-they are 60+ , they all recently lost the other live in son( his bro) by an accidental, but avoidable death. It's been well over 4 wks now, and he was devasted and heartbroken...his mother found her son's body lifeless, that morn my Bull and i had been talking and having a spat and after i hung up on him and a few texts from him i didnt answer, he called me within 20 mins just sobbing and telling me the news of his brother's death-I knew then he still cared for me-why else after a argument, would he call me with that tragic info? So that was the 1st step that lead me to believe he still was into me....
The Hotel rooms are necessary-he lives with his family....I personally started it off with him physically, tho we had met a whole year b4 and talked thruout all of 2008 here and there....Jan 2009 we met in person for the 1st time. And well, it was physical mainly with hints of friendship....then like i said, after the death on June 23rd-he changed, he became easier to talk to and then that lead to Friday's cuddle and laugh fest...I was happy we had no sex....helped me not look desperate but also showed him I AM A FRIEND!! which I looooove being anyway...when we are chilling its the BEST EVER>...things go smoothly and its just like destined, kindred spirits. Today, its 11am...Im not anticipating anything, but i know how I'm going to handle it if anything does come my way....
Thanks to u all for ur support and knowledge!

[Sunniskye]

Okay so let me see if I understood

You met in 2008 online? on over the phone?

You met in person this year and had sex pretty quickly by your urging. And then had the pregnancy scare. So you were never in a relationship. Then he tripped out on you but after his tradgedy reached out to you, you were there for him and then you kind of started being distant. Showed up at his house and apologized and now he is reaching out to you?? Am I pretty right?

Well then, yeah, I still say move slow. This is like a brand new start for you guys. So everything I said still applies in my opinion. Let him court you. Be there when you feel like it. And have fun. See where he takes it from here.

[Cancergurl]

all right! yes=ok-gotcha ;)

[Little One]

great advice sunniskye!