Secretive Scorpio

[Alyssa]

^^^ makes me nervous.

I find I am often wondering about his past relationships (specifically about a recent one) because if I ask him he is rather vague...but if the shoe is on the other foot he wants to know the tiniest details about my past relationship.
I've asked him about the relationship and he says he broke up with her but his friends say he "messed it up"...I'm confused and concerned.
It's not fair.
It also makes me suspicious which isn't something I enjoy.
Should I be worried? This is the only thing that bugs me about us right now...I am suspicious and a bit insecure. I don't know how sincere he is with me...

[Chubby cheeks]

I don't know how sincere he is with me...

Well, he's not sincere with you. He's just trying to get into your pants by acting "misteriously", and it's working.
You are already captivated by him and his "misterious personality".

[LaDiablaCancer]

scorpios are secretive to the point of paranoia but want to know EVERYTHING about you and your past before deciding to bestow you with intimate details about himself. however, in this case he's gonna have to let you in to have your relationship work out

i noticed that scorpios (suns, moons, and rising especially haha) see sex as a way to bring someone into their world but it doesn't equal mental intimacy until much, much later. It's kinda like being welcomed into someone's house but only being allowed to stay in the living room, but the more times you visit you get to move onto a different room until you've seen the whole house.

case in point, YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO TALK TO HIM...and gauge his reaction when you bring up certain questions

[Anna Banana]

Absolutely agree! SEX is the way that I express how much I am into you. However, I sometimes have much difficulty separating sex from love. If you refuse me sex, then I feel terribly rejected...and I will totally push you away.

[LaDiablaCancer]

i know right not only that i noticed that we cant fully articulate how we feel, I mean why talk about it when I can show you, right?

[Anna Banana]

Hmmm...I dunno... To start, I'm a Scorpio Rising and Venus. I can become a bit obsessed with knowing my lovers' pasts. I want to know every detail. However, when it comes to my lovers knowing my past, I tend to minimize. The REASON for this is because I've done some things that I shouldn't have and am terribly afraid that revealing those things would sabotage the things that I have going with you. The wanting to know your past is a way for him to gain control. Maybe if he sees that you've done some things you regret, then he'll feel more comfortable revealing the things he regrets.

If you are really into this guy, then my advice would be to reassure him that you will not judge him for what he's done in his past...that our pasts make us who we are. However, you have to MEAN it when (and if) you say it. If he tells you something and you change how you relate to him because of it, he will pull away. And the secrets will be pushed even more underground. This in turn, will make your suspicions grow.

[tamika smith]

I don't think I'd want to know about someone's past relationship. When it comes to the topic, just give him what he's giving you.....nothing.

[Sexy_Promethean]

No. He is doing an investigation on everything about you first and will tell you very little. He will tell you more once you earn his trust...

[Sarakit]

You may never know 100% "the truth" about his past breakup esp if it was a breakup under weird circumstances. The best you can do is take everybody's opinion and meld it together or ask the ex-gf, NOT something I'd recommend mind you but is the best way to know the truth. But how important is that particular truth to you? As long as they are broken up, then that should be good enough. He may just be trying to save face and that doesn't make him a horrible person. Sad and insecure, but not horrible.

I would continue to monitor him for lying about other things, but don't assume he is insincere just yet.

and yeah that's how Scorps are. They want to know everything about you but don't like you knowing about them. They will get mad if you dig info up on them.

[Sabina]

When I read this I thought what would make me secretive then it occured to me to new or potential relationships I might never admit to some things I have been up to not because I'm ashamed of the things I've done but the things I have allowed to happen to me, or that what my exes have been like would be a bad reflection on me and my poor judge of character. There are some things I just wouldn't tell my partner not because I didn't trust them I just wouldn't want them to know even If it made my ex look like an idiot and I needed revenge lol.

[Anna Banana]

Interesting perspective...

Either way, it comes down to you/us not wanting others to think that we made "bad" judgment calls. Right?

[Sabina]

Yeah 'cos if I made bad judgements in picking partners obviously I'm somehow flawed heaven forbid someone see's that lol

[Sexy_Promethean]

Let me just make this easy for you. We all have our crazies in the zodiac and unstable people. However, Scorpio tops them all. ;)

Who is more crazier than Rosanne Barr (Scorpio) in Hollywood? Come on now. (Gosh, the Scorpio I just dumped now reminds me of her.. a skank). LOL.



Who is more crazier than this criminal in jail? Come on now.



Do not let your guard down easily with them and trust them very slowly.. thinking it long and hard on whether you really want to be with them for the long haul.They size their potential mates up for the long haul. Have your own rigid screening process set up of standards that you want your potential mate to meet. If he doesn't match those standards, break up with him and move on. Also, do not put all your eggs in one basket for one guy but keep other options opened, ALWAYS.

Disclaimer: No Scorpios were harmed for this posting.