SCORPIO MOTHER HELL!

[erica17um]

Ok. This problem is as much a parental child dynamic as much as an astrological dynamic here goes.

My mum and eye have always had this tension between us, she is scorpio with leo moon and i cancer with scorpio moon! In the past she was very controlling, used to beat me up i mean sadistic bullshit and i use to make excuses for her saying 'its how she grew up', 'its the culture she comes from'. The funny thing is that even after all this i used to still defend her like some love deprived puppy just wanting her to love me! I'm embarassed for myself!

Anyhow one day she was beating me up i just grabbed her hand and said to her don't touch me anymore, she did and i gave it to her. I'm not proud of that but thats were i was at at the time. I later went to uni and escaped for her. With the whole credit crunch and crisis bullshit i had to move back to hers! i've got quite an extensive student debt and overdraft. I've been working to pay that off and she tells me she wants to start charging me rent and i'm like thats fine but after i pay off the overderaft then she tells me the amount she wants me to pay and my jaw drops!

I say to her i might as well just move to london for that amount of rent and shes like your welcome to do that really coldly. Also she knows she can't hurt me physically and she does it verbally and emotionally now! although i'm quite broke and i had all these plans of how i was going to structure my life for the next to years, i feel like i would be better off leaving my mums house and moving to London. I'm scared because well i have enough money to last me 6 weeks only but i can't live like this anymore.

What do you think? Am i thinking impulsive and irrationally or should i just take the chance! I can stay with a friend for a while but i'd prefer to leave before her generosity runs out. Hmm what to do?

[50ishVirgo]

Scorpios can be too tough.

You said a mouthful Capricorn....my mom is a scorpio and although she's a great mom she's got some hard views about parenting....and talking to them is very difficult...as old as I am...my mom has the tendency to make me feel like a little inadequate girl if I allowed it....they truly hate to help their offspring...dunno what that is about them...oh my just reading these posts....it never dawned on me that my mom was/is trying to control my life even at my age but hind sight is 20/20 cus that is what she's dayem sure doing....lawdy help

[nicolicious]

I think you should move. God will take care of you. Find a job asap. Dont ever go back. Just go in debt further--lol what can I say? You've got a Scorpio Moon, its a good backbone, you'll be okay.

[Tiffany]

Ugh, I have a mother like this. It sounds like your mom may have Borderline Personality Disorder.

Just get out of that house, you don't deserve that! You mom is cold & miserable & gets a thrill from treating you miserably. She won't change. It may be a struggle for you, but at least you'll be in a better environment.

Word of advice: I know she is your mom but you should really block her from your life. Let her know that you won't stand be treated the way she treats you. NO, it's NOT Okay!

[erica17um]

Guys i've made the move. i officially am now a londoner
thanks for all your advice. its not happily ever after but i feel new and rejuvinated! woo hoo! I did have a chat with her and she did apologize and said she was kool with my decision! i duno i never know what i'm gona get with the woman but at least that was good right!

Guys ya'll the greatest!

[Louise Mulholland]

Oh fantastic:-)

Well done:-)

And well done for handling your mum so wonderfully and graciously!:-)

And i am glad she gave you at least her blessing even if she did not behave well before.:-)

London must be so exciting:-)!

[PensiveGemini]

Your story sounds eerily familiar to me... my mom is a scorpio with a virgo moon and leo mars... im a gemini sun with aquarius moon and cancer rising... she, too was so controlling---she limited my friendships, my social life, beat me, etc... like you, i went away to school to get away from her... when I could have stayed in the city and gone to school with a full academic scholarship, but I would have had to live with her so... needless to say, I preferred to take out tons of loans and live away from her... when I came back home it was complete chaos... i returned a completely different person and she began demanding money for rent and checking up on how much I was spending when I went out with my friends! Anyway, I moved out... and while I'm tight for cash... it has been the best thing I could have ever done for myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations on your move! It will be tough because the bills and job and money stuff is no joke. But emotionally, you'll begin to heal, and to heal you will have to concentrate on yourself, your feelings and wants, rather than having to concentrate on HER feelings.