Is the friendship over too, or will we make amends? :(

[misskitty]

I just can't put this situation out of my head until I have closure. I have been learning about horary astrology, but I am very much a novice. I wanted to ask a question a. to learn, b. because I need some kind of closure before I can move on.

The entire situation may not be relevant, so I'll keep it short. I was romantically involved with a Virgo, and he recently hurt me badly. At this point, I do not want to know if we will get back together (even if I am curious) because asking and wondering that question won't allow me to take the steps needed for me to move on. But I do want to know if we will ever make amends and at least get our friendship back. His friendship was truly invaluable to me, and he said mine was for him as well, but there may be too much pain involved for us to resume the friendship without the romantic link.

I wrote him an email telling him how much he hurt me a few days ago. He is dealing with a lot of stuff right now health-wise and emotionally (going through his mid-life transits in his angular houses). But I at least expected him to apologize. He has not bothered to respond!! This has hurt even worse. So all I would like to know is if I should stop expecting a response, or if he even cares that he hurt me.

My own interpretation of the chart is that I am Mars and he is Venus. The two are in sextile, so does this mean the desire to remain friends is mutual?

I know the Moon is in the anaretic degree of Taurus, but it is in Taurus so that is dignified (right?), and it is making plenty of aspects, so it is not VOC? An alternative interpretation I heard for Moons that are in the last few degrees in horary is that it doesn't necessarily mean the answer is negative, but that something major will have to change to get the positive result desired. How do I interpret the moon in this case?

He (Venus) is the the 12th house, so does that mean he is still hiding something from me? He has a 12th house Moon natally, so it wouldn't surprise me.

My ameteur conclusion is that the feelings of frienship and wanting to maintain it are still there, but that he is being weighed down with something pretty deep and doesn't feel free to express his feelings. Maybe he never well. Since the Moon in in a suceedent house, can I expect closure one way or the other within a few weeks time?

Or does the Moon simply indicate that it is too early to predict right now?

I'm so confused. :( My head is swimming with all of this new info!

[misskitty]

You are both awesome. :) Thanks so much for your responses. I think you are right on Michelle, he was perfectly happy with a secret relationship, but I was the one wanting it to be more. I was wondering about the approach of Venus to Uranus as well. Impossible to predict what that will mean I guess, but with Saturn opposition it will still involve restriction and holding back.

I have begun to accept that a romantic relationship on the level I want may never be possible or fated for us, but before we got romantically involved he was a valuable friend and almost like a mentor to me. I really looked up to him. I didn't acknowledge my own feelings if attraction until he told me he had always been attracted to me. So that is why it is so important to me to save the friendship, it was there and valuable before anything romantic took place.

I was mainly comforted to see the tie between Mars and Venus. Also, Venus is the applying aspect right? So along with the combust Mars, I am interpretting that to mean there is no further action I need to take. The ball is completely in his court.

Thanks so much you guys.

[M.]

I see the 5th more of the creative expression area. Art. Leisure. Sports, lottery, gambling. But yes, love affairs are there too, but it's more romantic and lovey dovey. "No feelings involved" JUST "attractions" that's what I would describe the 5th house stuff.

"Children, pregnancy, pregnant women, sex of the unborn child. The health and condition of children. If afflicted, trouble and distress from children.
Love affairs, romance, lovemaking, sex, procreation and conception. If afflicted, promiscuity, sexual inhibition, immorality, overindulgence and scandals.
Pleasure, gifts and all pleasant things. Items purchased for the purpose of pleasure and enjoyment. The arts and muses. Dancing, music, merriment. Clothes, fineries and rich, luxurious things.
Horse-racing, betting on sport, lotteries and all forms of gambling and speculation. Speculation on the stock market is often assigned here but where the investment is based upon financial or business decisions the 2nd house has more relevance. Although Ivy Goldstein-Jacobson popularised the notion that it rules speculation on the stock market, she defined its influence as ruling "everything whose outcome is a matter of chance" ([SHA], p.163)."


http://www.skyscript.co.uk/temples/h5.html

[M.]

And, too be honest. I think she views him more than just a quick f*ck (5th house).

[misskitty]

Yup. I did think he was "the one" there for a while, but I have recently learned about the effects of Neptune transiting my 7th. Joke was on me I guess!

[misskitty]

I just wanted to give an update. The Moon trine Jupiter in the chart resulted in him emailing me and telling me "how much he values my friendship." Interesting that it was such a Jupiterian, Aquarian/11th house type of comment, no? I waited for days to respond, and when I did I just kept it professional. I am curious to see how the final Venus square Saturn and sextile Mars simulatneously will play out in real life.