Capricorn men in relationships....confused!!!!!

[Nightwish]

Cap guys...in relationships...Im getting mixed signals...lol...the words dont always match the actions....
Cant figure out should I hang in there or abandon it....never known a Cap guy before...

Any insights would be appreciated!!! Cheers!

[Nightwish]

When we are together he makes me feel like the most important person...treats me like guest of honour lol..stares into my eyes all the time i am with him..very tactile and attentive..has introduced me to his son and closest friends...told his family all about me....chemistry is amazing....enjoy each other's company....tells me he likes me....Im amazing...lovely...etc lol but when we are not together...nothing...couple of weeks ago.. he stopped phoning or replying to texts....did not mind if I text..just will not reply...eventually (Cancerian!) told him thats it Im off...your amazing...Im crazy bout you but sorry cant do this....he rang immediately...asked me what chinese food I wanted...and ordered me a taxi....had lovely eve...that was Sat/Sun...back to silence......??? Confused!!!

[Nightwish]

Yes I do think you are right....its what my instincts keep telling me...be patient and loving and hang in there...I think it could be something special..he is special.. so thats what I will do...
Thankyou so much for your views and your best wishes!!

[jhudy]

hi, im in the sign of scorpio... well.. i wanna join in ur conversation... i do have a lot of questions in my mind... as i keep browsing in the net about guys who are capricorns i came to drop in here ... in my mind, i have been thninking how do capricorn guys really show their affection and how they handle relationships?

... u see im confused, im currently dating a guy who is capricorn.. based on what i read here so far here,... when we are together... we tend to have a great time... i like the fact that i can talk to him anything, crack some jokes there.. i mean we do have a great time when we are together... but my concern is that.. they can become so unpredictable and sometimes i kinda NOT like it... when he is away... he rarely send a message which im not used to it and i dont know if i will get used to it ... i dont know how to explain it but it just the same as u people been writing here how u describe guys like them .. well, we have just been dating like months, u know? he is sometimes so..."silent night.." and in my part its kinda difficult for me. And me being a scorpio i cant deny it that i can have some mixed signals which i cannot avoid. I dont want to think of my self becoming insecure sometimes just bcoz of this but sometimes it cant be avoided ... i dont know how to say it but its kinda hard... i dont know whats going on... but he said theres nothing wrong and that i am important to him just the same that he's important to me but the fact he dont always do the sweet part like texting u or telling u or whatver if he does, it like FYI or a little note, u know... which sometimes i can become demanding bcoz of his actions... i have dated some signs which are not capricorns but they tend to be showy...

... im just tryin' to understand them more, i think? anyways...

.... i do also understand about the "space" thing but sometimes i just want to see the initiative or we women want" assurance thing"...

.... which sometimes, misinterpretation may take place because of his action itself that he does... which for me or maybe some women maybe bothered by it, u know...

.... so im wondering how do they handle relationships? and how can u be sure hes into u? this question is more applicable to those guys who are capricorns who wud care to send me a reply.. ive known some part of his family but i just want to understand more why are they like that? as far as i read here... there are some similarities on it on how u people share about them...

... so probably they are like that in some way.. but now i want to know more like why they like that or how can u tell if theyre really into u even if you are not together in one place or just far away from each other, u know what i mean?

...well.. anyways thanks... =D

... just for more info, at least i would know? =P

[Capri]

Capricorn's have their own line of thinking sometimes that only another Cap can get or understand. See we are not going to be all in the lime light or tend to draw attention to ourselves. We are fine with knowing who we are. Now don't get me wrong, there are Caps who love to be "on the scene" and some are very outgoing. Take Denzel Washington and Tiger Woods for instance. They are more of the "private" types of Caps. The ones I would prefer if I dated Cap men. They have a certain heir of mystery about them. Denzel is very confident, but not arrogant or cocky with it. He does give you that walk or that laugh every now and again that lets you know he knows his power. (LoL) Tiger is very reserved and conservative type. I love Tiger and I guarantee even though I don't know him, I could meet him and make him feel like he has known me forever. The thing is we need to feel comfortable enough to be us. We are not opening up to everyone, we just won't. Take for instance some people love me or they hate me, or they hate me because I will not give them the time of day. Well I am not rude, but there are types who's energy makes me unsettled. Meaning it's my gut warning me something is not right. Now if I listen to it, I will see soon enough what I did not know right away and then if I ignore it and not listen, I regret it every time. I have Neptune in my sixth house translation I have always known I was psychic. Caps will tend to pull back and then when you show you are interested too, they will eventually feel comfortable. If you criticize, try to pry or push us, you will get what you get when you try to make a goat do something it doesn't want to do.....it won't budge. We are always thinking, sometimes too much. We have fears, worries and concerns, that we don't share and will rarely ever disclose. We don't feel we can count on too many people so we don't. Show us undying loyalty and trust and you will be in our circle. If we can't trust you, you are done. You will feel the chill so to speak, but when we are there for you, you will never have a better friend, ever.

[Chubby cheeks]

have been thninking how do capricorn guys really show their affection and how they handle relationships?

Have no fear, Rafael is here :o)

Well, we are very private when it comes to relationships. We show our affection being by your side when you need to, given our shoulder when you feeling down, it's less about comunication and more about actions of affection.

I remember one time I took of my shoes and give it to my girlfriend, and walked 90 + min
with my naked foot just because she couldnt walk in her high heels.

When I'm dating I like the girl I'm dating to have her own life and space, sometimes I do want to call/text more often, but I'm also involved on my daily life and I'm sure she knows I love her from all I do for her. Don't be insecure if he doesn't communicate very often.
Just tell him that you will be glad if he calls/text you more than once in a day.

Tell him that you like to hear his voice and sometimes you like to know what he's feeling and doing.
Sometimes we think too much and we tend to be very quiet. Try to make him share he's feelings with you, this is good for us.

The guy likes you, otherwise he will not be dating you.

[Cusp Of Magic]

Whew glad to hear I'm not the only Crab going through this!

[Capri]

He let you meet his son and his family. That right there is a sign he really likes you. We are private people for the most part, if he did not intend on you being around, he would never let you meet anyone close to him. This hot and cold thing is normal for all Caps because we are planning our next move or trying to figure things out. We don't want to invest our time or feelings into a situation that in the long run won't work out. Yes we know there are no guarantee's, but that is the problem. We wish there were guarantee's that we won't get our feelings hurt. We don't like being vulnerable and opening up and things don't work out. Reason why is because when we do give to the person we care for, we believe in giving them our best. We are very methodical in our actions. We are not willy nilly types. Step by step, climbing up the mountain is how we get to the top. Don't waste our time, because we will not waste yours. If you hurt us, sorry, but we will kill you with silence and there will be no coming back. If we feel you are worthy, and you mess up, we will give you a chance to get it right, but don't deceive or try to call yourself using us, because we are convinced that you will never find anyone who treated you the way will did. That is not ego, that is confidence that we have given you our best. Cancer and Capricorn are polar opposites. If I am correct every sign has a opposite. This can work and probably will work better because he is a Capricorn instead of the other way around. Be patient. For you, 2 days is like 2 months, but to him 2 days is only 2 hours. He is pacing his steps, he doesn't want to overwhelm you with all his love, you might not be able to handle what he has had to suppress do to the fact that he probably has never had anyone he feels that really truly appreciated him for all he is and can be.

[jhudy]

wow... hey i havent read your message here a while ago? but i think you do answer some part of my question.. but im not a crab sign or whatsoever... im a scorpio. the thing is i do understand that part that you said like... "you tend to invest your feelings to someones worth it and all that.." because if you're asking me that... i would the same thing like that... but there some part that would not concide in the capri side... because for me as a scorpio, i would invest my feelings more on people whom i truly know he would respect me and show his assurance on me thingy like he shows it and i can feel it... i know its complicated same goes on me... or maybe i make things complicated...the only difference is that when scorpios are into a person they like or love, they tend to show it more... i dont know... if i myself, find it complicated.. i been through some relationships and maybe i just want things to work out just like what the two of us wanted.. but sometimes, the other person which is me towards the capri can be confused.. u know as i explained in my previous message... i cant explain any further but maybe later on...

[ananda]

Oh...I'm with a Cappy since some months now - we started dating in January. He's one of those truly great men, as far as I can tell. I am sure he's as trustworthy as a lover/partner can be. I am sure he loves me, mind, emotions, sex, spirit & all (with the one exception of our age difference). And here's how it's been: sometimes slow or no text responses. In person, consistently the feeling that he really enjoys and adores me. When apart: silence, space, distance. He went on vacation - nearly no contact. He expects that I should know how he feels even without his saying it or repeating it much anyway. And to my surprise, I do.
I think he really likes it that I let him take the space he needs. That I don't freak out when he wants to go away on his own. That I don't harass him to get more reassurance. (It's a learning experience for me, to not demand so much validation.)
I think he likes it that I truly feel him and feel his trustworthiness.
Mostly, I let him take the lead in making contact. That works for me, actually. Probably also because I really trust him. And I think that really works for him too. He keeps wanting to come back. With shorter and shorter intervals.
Having one's own life and points of interest helps!

[Nightwish]

That sounds just like whats goin on with my Cap...I too give him all the space he needs...yes like you I am learning not to demand so much validation...though I think I need to do as you do and let him take the lead in making contact...I am coming to the conclusion the more I move towards him..the more he backs away...its all new to me being a Cancerian...our instincts make us pour love and attention towards the guy we love...and make him centre of our world...think thats the wrong way for a Cap guy I am learning...He is going on holiday for 5 days now..and I expect no contact...when he returns I think I will leave it up to him as to wether he returns or not.... Thankyou for sharing your thoughts..its nice to know that other Caps do what mine is doin...

[ananda]

Yeah, it's not always easy! And my Moon is in Scorpio: I love and want deep connection, and for whatever reason (astrology, codependence, dysfunction...) I also love to pour out affection & attention.
But whether it's long term with us or not is secondary. For both of us right now it's giving us a great experience, we're both learning so much.
But honestly, I hate it sometimes that his text messages nearly never (2% of the time) end with something affectionate instead of his standard "fond greetings" (that's my translation for the German equivalent "Liebe Grüsse" which he abbreviates to LG).
But from the beginning, this is how he was. He shows his growing affection & love in other ways.
Luckily, for some reason, with him I'm able to find a place in me that cracks up about his Saturnian minimalism.
Now that I think of it, part of that must be because when we're together, we laugh like crazy and resonate so profoundly, the physical connection is great and so is our communication, so the trust that grows in that space is strong enough to hold his quirky weird restraint and the absence of expressions of affection. (He usually doesn't even answer my e-mails! Which I now very rarely write.)

[ananda]

And yeah, I definitely would encourage you to see what comes from giving him space. I like what came out of that for him & me.