CANCER TURN ONS AND TURN OFFS, share!

[Joanna Black]

curious to know from all you cancers or individuals who have been with cancers :)

[VegasGemini]

Offer to have a night in with dinner, TV or music and lots of conversation. Don't even leave the house. Stay cuddled up to them the entire time. Tell them they're marvelous. ;)

P.S. My fiancee is a Cancer. A lot of them are BIGTIME homebodies or become that as they get older. Best thing you can do is make them feel secure in their own dwellings and don't mind spending time there.

[Christopher]

Ooh, this can be fun!

Thanks for posting this, Joanna.

Let's see.

1.) Which is your favorite of the 3 Decans of Cancer, and why? I prefer Decan III since they are almost as silly and laid back as I am.

2.) Cancer Decan II is notorious for hanging onto feelings of anger and resentment. Cancers born in Decan II, is this true? Why is that?

3.) Are you a good cook? Please say yes.

[Jadey]

Hey Christopher what decan am I? (19th July) is that third?

[Jadey]

Ah okay, one of my best friends is 2nd decan, I know he loves an assertive woman who can make him laugh and has a silly laid back sense of humour, even to the extent of play fighting etc...he was married to my other friend for 7 years and always marvelled at how she could make him split his sides laughing. I know Cancer men tend to appreciate a woman with maternal qualities, someone who will fuss over him when he is sick and can create some home cooked marvels in the kitchen.

My boyfriend has a Cancer moon and he probably loves all the same stuff mentioned above, we are best buddies, constantly being silly together, playing pranks, winding each other up etc but we are both also quite emotional so we love long deep talks too. Hope this helps.

[Christopher]

Okay, so what is the birthday of your boyfriend?

[VegasGemini]

Mine wants to know, since she's Decan II (July 7th) if you are referring to the Scorpionic characteristics (she has in her natal chart 3 planets in the 8th and with her progressed now 5) that would cause a Cancerian to be inwardly angry, cynical, etc. Her ex-husband (July 9th) is definitely more the type to hold on to things, but she'll forgive and forget for the most part. But she's definitely an angry person, short fuse, intolerant, etc. if that's what you mean.

[Christopher]

Hey Vegas,

Yes, I am referring to the Scorpio character of Decan II Crabs.

I was with one for 4 years, and I can assure you that it was brutal with regard to her angry, cynical, spiteful and vindictive behavior. It was unlike anything I had ever experienced in my life.

They DO hold onto anger, and they DO get mean and nasty whenever arguments come into our lives.

Was this your experience as well?

While I strive to be a diplomat by nature, my ex was more of the "My way or the damn highway" mentality.

:-(

[VegasGemini]

Ooh, really? That had to be rough, then. Well, she's got her moments. I almost want to say she's more Leonine than Cancerian in a lot of aspects, because she's got 5 Leo planets (including moon, and a Sag asc.so another blast of fire) but LIS before, 3 are natally in the 8th...I believe it's Merc, moon and Venus but I'd have to check, can if you want) and ...I guess what I meant in regards to holding on to anger is that she doesn't have that typical III Decan Piscean "remember that day back in 1998 when you did this and this and that and that and it hurt my feelings?" (her best friend was that...sun Pisces March 17th...boy did those 2 butt heads). But she can certainly decide that once someone is on her shit list, there's nothing good about them anymore. She doesn't really give more than 2 chances to anyone. I almost want to say it's bitterness over being taken advantage of.

But she isn't vindictive, she does let karma handle things, but she isn't one I'd want to cross if I was on the shit list. She'll go off on someone she's angry with and let out some of the meanest things without even blinking.

[WildChild]

How old was she Christopher? For me, I was like that when I was younger. But, as I grew older I started reflecting more, becoming more philosophical. I realized that sometimes it's better to just let go and learn, than have to feel the need to fight every fight. Where Im at today, I might nip at people who need to be put in their places at times, but it takes A LOT, for me to come out with all my teeth. And many times I just let Karma take care of things, no need to get involved with "getting em" lol

I guess too, "Im the nicest person in the world, just don't "F" with me cuz Ive got the tongue of a venomous snake" Meaning I'll be nice for so long, but if you keep messing with me I will rip you apart with words, and normally it goes for the juglar. And because Im persepective enough, I know where to strike with my words. Not something Im always proud of, but again, as Ive gotten older, the ones that see that side of me are the ones that have pushed and poked me too much, whether past or present.

[Christopher]

Yeah, my ex was a real rattlesnake.

Glad that you have the maturity to know better than to act like she did.

This "Do as I say or be punished" crap is too much for any rational man to deal with.

[VegasGemini]

She said that to you?

Yeah, peace out...mine would never say that to me, thankfully.

Again, we target that to Leo. Sheesh. I hope you've found someone more worthy of your patience.

[Christopher]

She never said that literally to me, but it was conveyed frequently that I better do as she said or face some consequences.