Aries Mothers... do they tend to be overly controling and obsessive over their children?

[Moody STARS *-*]

Hello everyone,

Lets see where should i start...

I have an Aries mother, and I'm Cancer (yes it is a very interesting mother daughter relationship). I once told my mother, "Mom i love you, but i can't stand you" I know it sounds mean but the way we clash is very amusing, if your not me. She tends to be overly controlling of my life, when i told her that i was leaving home to go to the university she got mad at me and said "why don't you staying at the community college, become a secretary and marry and educated man?" I couldn't believe what she had said, i could do better than be a secretary (no offense to anyone who is a secretary, any job is a respectable job) and I am a very capable woman that doesn't need a man to survive, well what she said bothered me terribly, i honestly got pissed at her. You see, I graduated as one of the best students in my class, took some of the most difficult classes, and i was involved in intellectual organizations and i had wanted to become a writer/business lawyer from the age of 12. After I told her that I was going no matter what, she said that she hadn't expected me to leave the home until I got married, (the funny thing about our relationship is that she acts like more of a cancer than me most of the time). Either way, this conversation took place nearly a year ago, now I'm a freshmen in college and loving life, but every time I go home my mother keeps making comments on how i should come back home next school year and asks me the same question "why did you leave?" repeatedly after I've told her many countless times, and then she begins to cry and make me feel like the worst person in the planet, and when I'm at the University she gives me such a hard time constantly calling me and stressing me out with unnecessary comments.

Since I was a child my mother has had complete control over me, i was always obedient but mostly because i didn't want to go through the trouble of rebelling, but the last couple of years shes become worse, last time when i went home i went to the library in the morning and didn't tell her because she was sleeping, when i got back home she made a huge deal, during high school she rarely let me go out, i think i went out like 8 times during my whole 4yrs of high school. In my mothers head, I'm apart of her world, and I can't do anything unless she approves. Once i heard this girl say something about her own mother that i felt was true about mine, "Darling i want you to be happy, as long as it is on my terms."

I don't know if all mothers are like this (considering I only have one haha jk :P) I was wondering if this is typical of an Aries mother? I'd expect this from a Cancer mother but i don't think I'd ever be this overly controlling.

[aries woman]

I'm an aries mother and i guess she is just missing u terrible already :) we do tend too wana protect our kids from the world outside, from hurting and stuff like tat. Which makes us over protective. talk too her heart too heart tell her she'll always be in ur life and ya'll miss her but its something u have too do for u. She will eventually accept this but i guess its the shock her first reaction and pannick cas ur her child.