Aries Mothers... do they tend to be overly controling and obsessive over their children?
Hello everyone,
Lets see where should i start...
I have an Aries mother, and I'm Cancer (yes it is a very interesting mother daughter relationship). I once told my mother, "Mom i love you, but i can't stand you" I know it sounds mean but the way we clash is very amusing, if your not me. She tends to be overly controlling of my life, when i told her that i was leaving home to go to the university she got mad at me and said "why don't you staying at the community college, become a secretary and marry and educated man?" I couldn't believe what she had said, i could do better than be a secretary (no offense to anyone who is a secretary, any job is a respectable job) and I am a very capable woman that doesn't need a man to survive, well what she said bothered me terribly, i honestly got pissed at her. You see, I graduated as one of the best students in my class, took some of the most difficult classes, and i was involved in intellectual organizations and i had wanted to become a writer/business lawyer from the age of 12. After I told her that I was going no matter what, she said that she hadn't expected me to leave the home until I got married, (the funny thing about our relationship is that she acts like more of a cancer than me most of the time). Either way, this conversation took place nearly a year ago, now I'm a freshmen in college and loving life, but every time I go home my mother keeps making comments on how i should come back home next school year and asks me the same question "why did you leave?" repeatedly after I've told her many countless times, and then she begins to cry and make me feel like the worst person in the planet, and when I'm at the University she gives me such a hard time constantly calling me and stressing me out with unnecessary comments.
Since I was a child my mother has had complete control over me, i was always obedient but mostly because i didn't want to go through the trouble of rebelling, but the last couple of years shes become worse, last time when i went home i went to the library in the morning and didn't tell her because she was sleeping, when i got back home she made a huge deal, during high school she rarely let me go out, i think i went out like 8 times during my whole 4yrs of high school. In my mothers head, I'm apart of her world, and I can't do anything unless she approves. Once i heard this girl say something about her own mother that i felt was true about mine, "Darling i want you to be happy, as long as it is on my terms."
I don't know if all mothers are like this (considering I only have one haha jk :P) I was wondering if this is typical of an Aries mother? I'd expect this from a Cancer mother but i don't think I'd ever be this overly controlling.
Lets see where should i start...
I have an Aries mother, and I'm Cancer (yes it is a very interesting mother daughter relationship). I once told my mother, "Mom i love you, but i can't stand you" I know it sounds mean but the way we clash is very amusing, if your not me. She tends to be overly controlling of my life, when i told her that i was leaving home to go to the university she got mad at me and said "why don't you staying at the community college, become a secretary and marry and educated man?" I couldn't believe what she had said, i could do better than be a secretary (no offense to anyone who is a secretary, any job is a respectable job) and I am a very capable woman that doesn't need a man to survive, well what she said bothered me terribly, i honestly got pissed at her. You see, I graduated as one of the best students in my class, took some of the most difficult classes, and i was involved in intellectual organizations and i had wanted to become a writer/business lawyer from the age of 12. After I told her that I was going no matter what, she said that she hadn't expected me to leave the home until I got married, (the funny thing about our relationship is that she acts like more of a cancer than me most of the time). Either way, this conversation took place nearly a year ago, now I'm a freshmen in college and loving life, but every time I go home my mother keeps making comments on how i should come back home next school year and asks me the same question "why did you leave?" repeatedly after I've told her many countless times, and then she begins to cry and make me feel like the worst person in the planet, and when I'm at the University she gives me such a hard time constantly calling me and stressing me out with unnecessary comments.
Since I was a child my mother has had complete control over me, i was always obedient but mostly because i didn't want to go through the trouble of rebelling, but the last couple of years shes become worse, last time when i went home i went to the library in the morning and didn't tell her because she was sleeping, when i got back home she made a huge deal, during high school she rarely let me go out, i think i went out like 8 times during my whole 4yrs of high school. In my mothers head, I'm apart of her world, and I can't do anything unless she approves. Once i heard this girl say something about her own mother that i felt was true about mine, "Darling i want you to be happy, as long as it is on my terms."
I don't know if all mothers are like this (considering I only have one haha jk :P) I was wondering if this is typical of an Aries mother? I'd expect this from a Cancer mother but i don't think I'd ever be this overly controlling.
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Permalink Reply by Moody STARS *-* on -
Hey Marina thanks for the comment,
well my mother has Taurus in moon which would explain her STUBBORNNESS and Persistence with always telling me to go back home, Aquarius Venus, and also Pisces in Mercury, i'm not so sure about her rising since she doesn't know what time she was born the thing is i guess my mother doesn't act like a regular Aries (I blame the Taurus in her haha) but she is very outgoing, my friends think shes funny, she loves being the center of attention, and most of the time she'll be making jokes, but when it come to me shes a bit different and very conservative with strong traditional and family values, something i might not be so concerned with. I have even heard from the family (sometimes her) that when she was a teenager she was all over the place, she did some heavy partying, but apparently her baby girl can't... haha
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Permalink Reply by Maria on -
wow im an aries with taurus moon and pisces mercury!!! lol. my rising is pisces, venus and mars= aries.. thats interesting.. i did do some partying as a teenager!! and i do think i know whats right! but i dont try to impose it upon others really, i try not to have conflicts or put up a fight unless i find people trying to impose their will upon me!! i cannot stand other people having their way on me! i do tend to have a lot of bossy people around me and idk, maybe this is how or why i can appreciate having some peace and relaxation without that drama.
btw, ur moms venus in aquarius is a really good source of stubborn-ness and some paranoia as well!! those aquarius qualities drive me nuts!!
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Permalink Reply by Rashy on
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Hey marina do u think ur aries mom is well suited for ur virgo dad? Js askin bcause I'm on and off with a virgo and wonderin if its worth all da stress....
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Permalink Reply by Maria on
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<--aries here, cannot stand virgos of the opposite sex!! but you love who you love right?!
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Permalink Reply by Natasha on -
Just one word: Yes. I really fight with my mom most because I love her so much...muaha.
Mmm... just read the whole thing though. My mom, actually... haha. She was saying today, she'd like me to go to San Fransisco. Basically, that's on the opposite coast. (I was the one crying, lol.) So she has no problems with me leaving. She also likes me to go and do stuff for myself.
However, she never let me go to a freaking sleepover, lol. Er, well this one hotel party... Yeah. She just makes sure I have everything if I ever go anywhere, and gets all the info. -nod nod-
Hm. She doesn't like me wandering anywhere though. Like, stay here, don't walk like that, ect... ch'yah.
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Permalink Reply by Moody STARS *-* on
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Hey Natasha,
yeah, i know my mother never let me go to a sleepover either, she said only family, and even then it would only be one night. If she had it her way, she'd never let me out of her sight... haha
oh goodness, im glad i'm 4hrs away from home :D
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Permalink Reply by Natasha on
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Lol, and she said she wanted to be in the city when I go there this May. Lol. They don't have to go... geez. xD I mean what are they gonna do there? Not gonna see me. x3
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Permalink Reply by Maria on
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As an aries parent, which I am not yet, I would probably be so careful about sleepovers too!! Some people, can't even trust family to take care of their babies!! It's unfortunate and I don't want to say but sometimes it is that way.. I will totally do background checks when it comes to my kids! lol.
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Permalink Reply by nicolicious on -
LOL my dad is a Cancer & my grandma is an Aries. He has issues. I love my daddy but he does. Mostly because of his issues with her. He is in his late 40's & sometimes i think he is in elementary. Their arguments get pretty damn juvenile.
I am her favorite, God knows why LOL. I don't kiss her ass like the rest of the family. But I don't rebel either. I keep busy & quiet & tell her tidbits of secrets when she wants to gossip. As an 80-year old Aries--she is always right--i just don't argue.
My dad is extremely private & protective of his privacy. His main complaint was growing up being punished without an explanation as to why. Also his father is a Sag & let his mom the Aries run the show. I think he carries some resentment there & doesn't understand altered gender dominance. It didn't help that she worked at a corrections facility & was kind of a police officer & took her work home with her. He was the youngest of four & acted out by being disobedient also.
She still pries into his business & is rude & embarrasses him & doesn't understand why he is sensitive. She doesn't seem to care much either. It can be entertaining & it can also be a nightmare. I think the worst thing is my dads view towards women sometimes. After my mom (a cap) screwed him over in the divorce & having two daughters & no other successful relationship--its as if he hates women bitterly. I swear this is his mommy issues.
I love him dearly & he is a great guy don't get me wrong. Most women find him charming & easy-going, which he is. But I have been watching him a long time & sometimes he says the most ridiculous things about women as if we are all "she-devils" or the opposite he will have a crush on a woman & she will be an angel. The minute she isn't & is somewhat human & has a bad day---she's a she-devil too & he goes running back to his man crab cave.
but its cool. i don't really want a step-mom anyway. i'm the queen of the house, it can stay that way :)
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Permalink Reply by nicolicious on
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also to answer your question LOL yes.
i am her grandchild & if i don't answer my phone I get nasty messages from her. Yet she'll leave her phone anywhere like "oops!" She is a total control freak over all my aunts & uncles as well. She often comes over unannounced & it drives the in-laws crazy. No one really has the balls to tell her off b/c they love her, etc. She often threatens to take things away, she is a big indian giver. Also, my exes dad was an aries & he was the same way. He even had a book on intimidation methods to gain control over people. I was like "whoa".
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Permalink Reply by Natasha on
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Oh, Nic, that's smart...not rebelling. ^^;
My mom's just calling me the lioness now, so that's basically the mode of expression here, that I tend to give when I'm annoyed. x( Yeah...I am ze lion not just a lap kitty, rawrrrr. xD
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Permalink Reply by joswanprince on -
Nicolicious...you just did what I did..
I'm the KING in the family!! lol...
the different is..I yell at my dad to SHUT UP!
Never meet Aries parents in my life..but eh..
I'm soo nauseatic with super-permissive Aquarius parenting style.
My Leo lil'sis just grow to be a brats like me
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