Virgo-Pisces

[Jeffrey Kishner]

Discuss compatibility between Virgo and Pisces Sun signs.

[SuchAVirgo]

This is one of my favorite combinations. I truly believe that both people in this partnership has what it takes to completely fulfill the other. The saddest thing about this combo is that the intensity of the connection frightens both in their own way. It takes courage and understanding in heaps on both sides to make this work. Unfortunately, most of the time one leaves the other for an easier partnership. But only with a pisces have I been able to wake up in the morning and truly smell the sweetness of the air around me. If that isn't pure love, what is?

[MsAristocracy]

I am a Virgo girl in a relationship with a Pisces male for 2 months. We knew each other for about a year but it wasn't until we went out on a group date where we had a lot of fun together that we decided to pursue more. I always thought he was a good guy, the kind grandma's love, but never thought to seize him for myself. Initially, things moved slowly, we were still more like friends but just more amped in the area of communication (throughout each day). I think that was the strangest part because we were taking friendship to relationship which is something I don't have much experience with.

It was awkward because neither of us were confident enough to get on the romantic microphone and seriously acknowledge the pursuit of a relationship. We were passively "in" it and waiting for it to change on its own so we can be secure enough to participate in it. Luckily, I never gave up and neither did he and about three weeks into our relationship we took it to the next level. After that he had no problem calling me his girlfriend and us a couple. I guess getting the "intimate" green light helped him become more sure of our commitment. Patience is a virtue and good things come to those who wait which also means only the strong survive.

Sometimes I wonder if I give him enough attention and affection, not that he seems unhappy, I just want to make sure that all is well in my fairy tale. He makes me happy, has a great sense of humor and knows how to make me really laugh. I never feel unsure of his interest or neglected by him and we talk about the future together with ease. I truly believe that this is a relationship with so much potential for me and will lead to marriage. Before me he hadn't been in a relationship for a while because he was looking for someone he could grow in love with. Well, we are growing and in the way I've always wanted to and that wouldn't be possible without his cooperation. It takes two and we have that!!!

[scorpiomoon66]

That's so nice to hear. Pisces require a lot of patience in the beginning, and some space, and you gave him that. He can breathe with you and pisces need that.

[Fairey]

That's very nice to hear. Hopefully the two of you are still going strong. I was married to a virgo and know that this relationship will be all or nothing. Like you said it really depends on the two individuals. Unfortunately, he was very weary of "smelling the roses" and hadn't quite developed to appreciate an intense emotional experience. I think I could date another virgo but he would have to be open to an out of this world experience. I think virgos are very patient which is one thing I like about them since initially pisces can be evasive and need space to reflect.

[MsAristocracy]

Unfortunately, about two weeks after I posted this he went MIA andthen 16 days after that he called me up and told me the details of the problems he was having with me. We never spoke after that day.

I don't know what's better, to try and have a relationship the right way and believe that it is what it is (like I was doing with him). Or, to just do whatever you want to do and be whoever you want to be and let the chips fall where they may. My point is, no matter what you might be thinking there is a whole other person involved with thoughts too. So, if you can't every really be sure you have something real and strong does it make a difference if you put in the work it takes to have a "real and strong" relationship. It's hard work with the potential to be or not to be rewarding.

[MsAristocracy]

Demian_Lyte, I really enjoyed reading your memories. I love the way you write. I'm sorry that your relationship did not go the way that would lead to a happily ever after. I am also a leo-virgo cusp (Aug 25th) and I can't imagine using drugs, however I know Virgos who have so it definitely was not an exception for your LVC (leo-virgo cusp). I think that it would be easier to remember her in the best light. Who knows what other changes you would have seen trying to stay with her. It would have taken away from the beauty of love you once knew.

I believe that we find vices (food, alcohol, drugs, sex) we can abuse in order to get away from pain and that if we were to deal with the pain we would be able to find happiness from within. Most pain stems from childhood or the younger years before adulthood. It requires a lot of forgiveness. Hopefully, she will be able to do this one day.

Don't give up on finding a love that is equally (if not more) beautiful than what you had with her. It's definitely possible and your heart is so beautiful that it deserves it. :)

[ForeverSweet]

demian lyte -
It's funny that you write this. It was the complete opposite for myself and my Pisces girlfriend.
She was the one that tended to find her vices in drinking, smoking, pills and even trying to commit suicide. On the contrary - I was usually the one telling her to stop. (Though I am a full Virgo) but I do agree that like Pisces, Virgo is a sign that can easily fall into addictions to deal with upsets in their lives. Like MsAristocracy said, things that have affected us in early childhood. I think a lot of Virgo's are able to deal with it in a healthy way (perhaps a reason Virgo's can be such health-freaks? opposite obcession to vices?) but I don't think most Virgo's are the type to express their feelings openly and so tend to find release in other things. I'm sorry to hear that it was something your Virgo wasn't able to get through!
It was also nice to see someone describe the beautiful side of the Virgo-Pisces relationship. It can be so completely beautiful at times. The exact kind of love that people seem to look for, for their entire lives. When I was with my Pisces - we often felt like soulmates. We would cry together, laugh together. Everything seemed to be "beautiful" and almost dreamy. As a Pisces, she was able to help me let go of being such a nit-pick and really explore my more emotional and free side. I think this is something great that Pisces bring to a Virgo. They give Virgo's the sense of saftey to express being a "Virgo" in every way. They really do make us feel wonderful.
There really is a sense of something amazing between these two signs that often those two only seem to understand. It's almost like playing make-believe as a kid and finding your own world. :) with just the two of you.
Sadly, I feel like Pisces-Virgo relationships are meant to be short lived from what so many people have said and my own experiences. It can be so passionate and I dont think, for those of us who have experienced something beautiful, its something that either party can ever really "get over".
Even now there are times when I still feel a certain sense of lonliness without my ex, because there was such a sense of being connected through the soul. Afterwards you feel like you're missing the one person you could fully understand and love!
On the bad part, it seems impossible to communicate. I think this pairing is forever meant to be in something of a limbo. Stuck between love and hate. :)
Either way - was nice to read a post I could relate to!
I hope you find better luck in the future. Or for that matter, all of us broken hearted Pisces and Virgo's who have run into each other find better luck!
(Or a pisces-Virgo relationship actually WORKS for somebody! haha!)

[AffectionOfAVirgo]

Well I'm a Virgo and my soon to be ex-husband is a Pisces...and obviously things didn't work out for us. He's the second Pisces man that I've been involved with and they both shared a lot of the same qualities, although he was a lot worse. I often wonder how I fell for him in the first place because he's a very cold man. Nothing really seemed to matter to him (other than his children) and he was very nonchalant. He was very deceitful, lied, cheated, and everything else that I said I would not tolerate in a relationship. The biggest kicker for me was that he wasn't affectionate. Not sure if this is typical of the Virgo woman, but I need affection and if I don't get it....you will lose my interest EXTREMELY fast! He didn't hold my hand in public, hug, kiss or anything. And on top of not meeting my basic needs, he cheated on me numerous times....from the ex-wife, to the ex-mistress (who was the reason he divorced the 1st time), to some woman on the job, to my next door NEIGHBOR! Can't say that he actually had sex with these woman, but if he didn't, he should have cause it really ruined our relationship. I hate to make the Pisces man look so bad, but this is just my experience....and I'll NEVER date another Pisces man ever again! Good luck

[MsAristocracy]

AffectionOfAVirgo (love the name) "which sign matches good with mine?" :) I feel ya. I'm sorry that you are going through a divorce and that he has broken your trust and faith and desire to hold strong onto the marriage. But, I know as a Virgo we have to do what we feel is right because once the memory is tainted there is nothing else there. It's like sand slipping through our fingers (willingly).

Currently, I'm involved with a Pisces male of 2mos and I adore him but you're right Virgo's and Pisces are one heck of a combination and I won't date anymore after him which I am sure there will be an after him. Because one of us will lose our "Good & Perfect Behavior" award sooner or later. He is my 3rd relationship with a Pisces. The first one broke my heart severely and permanently. I can not forgive him except to ignore his existence and he wants real forgiveness. Too bad so sad.

The second one was right before my current relationship. He allegedly had a girlfriend but was interested in me and some of my friends thought him to be lying about a gf just so I wouldnt get too close and I ran with that. Eventually he swam away and my thinking that he must have a gf afterall made me decide to let him. Two weekends ago he tried to come back (for sex no doubt) I ignored him completely. Because after he left me alone I was hurting a little and decided that I needed a change.


I decided that change would be to open myself up to being in a REAL relationship with someone who wanted to be in a REAL one with me (my current pisces) and so far so good. I've been tested too... Five ex-bf's of mine have tried to come back during this relationship (four after the New Year and that's pretty typical). I've dismissed those plans completely. When I am in a relationship and things are good I'm good and I don't need anything else. However, as a Virgo, I am an analytical overthinking worrier. So, as far as dismissing men who I still have love for and may always love, well I don't know if that is a sign that I should have gone back to one of them because trouble is around the corner for me and my current beau, or not. However, since I didn't I guess I will find out sooner or later.

My Pisces is not exactly unaffectionate but he does not match mine completely. He holds back when I show him affection and when I am content he wants to show me affection. Not a problem because I can always use it. Now, as far as the cheating goes, I have my suspicions, though nothing solid. Mainly because I am expecting it based on that lingering trait phrase "Pisces are easily influenced and will fall for any pretty woman". I know he loves beautiful women, he has never made that a secret. So, how does a Virgo relax with that in the back of her mind? I already had trust issues because most men have committment issues which for me is a sign they want more than one woman, not exactly freedom. So, in my relationship I sleep with one eye open (waiting). And, I know that's sad.

As far as the lies go. He has a festive imagination. I use to laugh at his "tall tales" early on but around Christmas I started realizing that he wanted me to believe the stories that were escalating in details that were unbelievable by anyone with half a mind. I don't know if that's because I encouraged him by pretending to believe the smaller ones or if its just one of his character flaws and he does it with everyone. I don't like any form of lying but so far they're harmless so I can't really figure out how to call him on them. He lies about what he has going on in his social world and I think its to impress me so if I burst his bubble I will feel bad for him so I just let it ride. I figure its easier for me to just hold on to my knowledge of the untruth than to upset the balance of someone who is supposedly sensitive and prone to escapism. What do I really get out of doing that?

So, I hear & feel you. If I can say nothing else, thank you for sharing your story. Food for thought. :)

[AffectionOfAVirgo]

Great....so you know the song! And the opening of the 2nd verse says what?! "I wish he was Virgo, the same sign as me. Knows how to show me love, cause I've been hurt by a PISCES!!" AND, they brought it back and repeated it! If that's not a sign, then I don't know what is! But you're experience with the first Pisces sounds a lot like mines. He broke my heart beyond repair and the only thing that I can do (or wish that I could do) is just forget him altogether....one BIG problem though...we have a child together! So obviously that plan doesn't quite work out the way I wish it could.
As for the men that you still have love for....well I feel you on that one. And actually, that's what I did...went back to a man that I have been in love with for 6 years (yeah, even while I was married!). When you get a chance, go read my post entitled "HELP, Virgo Woman/Aries Man"! It's a long story. But I felt like if I loved this man so much and honestly doubt that I'll ever love another man the way that I love him (partly because I don't want to!) then maybe I should go by and see what happens. But that's a whole 'nother story...we can tackle that issue when you read the post! Back to you....
I agree with the holding back of affection. Sometimes, it was almost like my husband had to force himself to show me affection because it just wasn't in his nature. I remember one time my MOTHER said to me, "he just didn't look right when he was holding you...he looked awkward!" WOW!
Cheating....the story of my marriage! He was definitely a weak man and any woman (didn't have to be pretty) that would stroke his little pathetic ego....he would melt in her hand! My neighbor was soooooooooooooo NOT attractive and he fell for it! I was out of town at the time, and she invited herself into my home via email, and he went along with it. But of course, I'm inspector gadget so I stopped it dead in its tracks and she didn't get a chance to even leave work before I had them both on the phone saying some not so nice things! So to answer your question, we Virogs could NEVER rest with that knowledge in the back of our minds. I literally became a certified and QUALIFIED private investigator during my marriage! I was reading something yesterday on one of the post here about the Pisces man that was hilarious....but so true that it was scary. "How to Spot a Bastard by his Star Sign"! Well, here's what they say about the Pisces..."Quite simply Pisces is a pathological liar." So as if that wasn't enough to hit home with me...they took a step further and said "Because he's at the arse-end of the zodiac, Pisces is often referred to as the astrological 'rubbish tip'. What this means is he has a little bit of all b*stards in him, which therefore makes him a b*stard twelve times over. This in turn means he's obliged to tell massive fibs so you won't find out the awful truth. Obviously, the quicker off the mark you are, the sooner you'll spot the yawning chasm between fact and ficton and faster you can drop him. Because to be honest, once the thrill of catching him out wears off, you'll begin to resent being a full-time lie detector on legs. " Funny, sad, and true all at the same time! My husband told me that he used to lie as a child about his family because he wanted to make them look better than they actually were. That should've been a sign for me. Because those lies clearly continued throughout his life. The one woman from the job that he was dating, he told her that I was just his girlfriend and we lived together! OH OH, good one, the DAY BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED, he went to see the ex-mistress before he came to see me. Told her he'd come back the next day (my wedding day) and then later lied and told her that he didn't come by because he got into a car accident and totalled the car! WTF?! He would make personals online saying that he was divorced for 6 months...we were clearly still married. It was just pathetic!
So there you have, my pitiful experience with a Pisces. But on another note, you made a statement about be a "worrier"! Now, I love my whole virgoism and all, but doesn't it just drive you nuts sometimes that you can't just "go with the flow" like so many people and horoscopes suggest?! Sometimes I wish I could do that. Just not think about it at all, and live in the moment. And if I am able to do that, I might live in that moment,,,,but afterwards, here comes the freight train of thoughts !!!

[MsAristocracy]

Demian, I feel what you're saying and in no way is this an attack on you or Pisces. It's just that the negative traits (dark side) really are what they are. We read about Pisces before dating them and inspite of those negative possibilities we proceded to go into it with faith and love and not expecting a revelation of the inevitable.

As far as your Virgo mom, I totally believe in organization and will take over a project in a heart beat (if allowed) so that things can be organized and detail perfectly. My cabinets are not labeled but if the kitchen was a place that I found to be my 2nd or 3rd sanctuary in the home there would be signs of order that my children would need to follow. Maybe even labels :)

My son is a Pisces, and I am not projecting bad traits on him, its already there. One thing I never did before was study my children.However, with dating this last Pisces I was able to look at them both and see what I see. I remember a time when my son had been lying like it was going out of style. I nearly strangled him to death because I wanted him to stop lying. It's like something just came over me saying my child will not be a liar I will not have you growing up to be this person. His dad is Virgo too and I have no clue how this affects him but his dad says that he knows he is a liar, now he says both boys are lliars but thats because they both are older now. So, it's not just me. Virgo dad sees it and doesn't get into astrology at all. Other son is Gemini.

All of those good qualities you named about Pisces is why I felt he would be a great man for me to be with. I only focused on that, I highlighted that in my speech of him to others and for a while it was true. His only blemish is leaving me and ignoring me and from the 23rd to now so that's a big blemish to critical Virgo. Pisces might get over stuff like that but not me. As far as this man's lying, they were all harmless because they did not affect me. Affection's husbands lies affected her. The lies are on the same scale just that mine didn't get a chance to continue his path of lying to different levels.

I wouldn't expect you to do anything different so feel free to promote and protect your fellow Pisces, I would do the same for my Virgos, with the exception that I do have that highly critical of others and self trait so I am not so sure I would be looking with rose colored glasses. Never the less, I get where you're coming from.

Enjoy your weekend and start of the week as well. :)

MsA

[MsAristocracy]

Ok, Affection, you've done it. Best post I've read on SC to date!!!

Either I needed that or you're a great writer. Ok, it's both. :)

I am going to go read your post "Help" after here. Your Pisces was about the same kind of liar that mine was except he lied about being in Vegas, then South Beach for Christmas and New Years knowing the whole time he was in that little country bumpkin town he was born and raised. The lies he has told me in two months were all harmless to me but very extravagant. So, I was pretty much just amused because like you, the P.I. skills kicked in and tht was all she wrote. I am loving that bastard analogy as far as the rubbish tip lmao. I agree with that whole heartedly.

Now, your soon to be ex-husband is a character indeed because those lies were whoppers and I can tell that like my ex-Pisces he really risked being caught on such extravagant lies. At some point I wanted to warn him to lower the level of his stories because he's ratting himself out. But, I wasn't comfortable enough to bust him on his lies (sensitive Pisces who escapes trait) so he was ok I guess but of the lies that were verifiable through others who went to places he went I found out he was so FOS not just possibly lying but NFW was any of it even possible.

You know, my oldest son is Pisces (March 13) and I think I will have the same patience that you have with your husband with my son and that makes me question if I will bust him out on his lies to others or let them ride like I did with my ex. I know I won't watch him hurt anyone so this becomes a question of my loyalties vs. my morals.

To answer your question, yes I wish I could just be "normal" and not let my thoughts take over me. I totally wished that when I was dating the Scorp-Sag cusp. But, I will hit you up once I read about you and your Aries.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend and the start of your week.

MsA